Post # 1
Just curious what time evening weddings are ending. Right now, I have scheduled for my wedding to end at 11pm. FI is worried that 11pm is too early, but I think it’s fine considering that we are only permitted to have a 5 hour reception with our current wedding package. Extending our reception another hour will cost us $350 and then we will also have to figure out costs of keeping the bar open. So not cheap! I don’t think it’s worth it. We also can’t start the wedding later because our ceremony is already at 5:30. Thoughts?
Post # 3
Ours is ending at 11:00 (or possibly 10:30), and I think that is perfectly okay! You aren’t required to keep your guests out all night. And to be honest, I’ve been to a 6-hour reception, and it was just too long (in my opinion). If you’re really concerned, you could join your guests for an after-party at a local bar or something. Then again, if you are leaving early the next morning for your honeymoon, it may be nice to end by 11pm! I’m also considering that my guests may be more inclined to stay for a longer time if my reception doesn’t go too late.
Post # 4
Ours ended at 11pm. I THOUGHT it was too early since our ceremony started at 6pm (5 hours didn’t seem too long to me) but it was! Everyone was exhausted, the beer was gone, and everyone had to go home.
Your schedule is pretty close to ours, i’d keep it to 11pm. the ONLY peopel around at 11pm were our immediate families and our bridal parties. It emptied out around 930pm.
Post # 5
Ours is 6-11pm (with a 4:30 ceremony) We’re having an after party at the hotel.
Post # 6
My reception on a Friday is 7pm-11pm. We’re definitely doing an after-party once the reception is over!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
We have an outdoor venue in a mostly residential neighborhood so noise ordinances require that any parties are over by 10:30. Our ceremony will be at 5, cocktail hour from 5:30-6:30, party for four hours and then we’ll have an after party.
Post # 8
I bet you will all be so tired, 11pm will be fine! If its too early for some of the guests, is there a bar or lounge you can all meet up at afterward? We’ve done that at weddings before.
Post # 9
We were going to go until midnight but instead decided to end at 11:00 to save on extended venue rental, alcohol, security and DJ costs (also to give a polite ‘out’ for people who’d like to go home). We’ll be continuing the celebration at a bar adjacent to our hotel for whoever’s not finished partying.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
i think 11pm is perfectly reasonable–more importantly your reception is already 5 hours, so that’s plenty of time for you and your guests to enjoy the festivities. our venue required that our event end at 10pm, so that was an easy decision for us. i wouldn’t worry about what time it ends, it’s more that you’ve allotted enough time for ceremony/reception/etc., which you have. hope this helps!
Post # 11
our reception is 6pm – midnight~
Post # 12
11 seems to be the norm for evening weddings and it may sound early, but its really not! Ive been to plenty of weddings for friends that ended at 11 and it felt so much later and lets just say that we had way too much fun and it was probably a good thing ha. Ive been to some that went past midnight and it was too long. This isnt like a regular night on the town, I mean you have to figure that from the start of the ceremony youre going nonstop and its exhausting! Normal bar night you figure you have dinner around 7 or 8 and then dont go out until 9 or 10 (at least for us) or even later like 11, depending on where we are (blue laws and such). So yea, its a lot different. And those little fees to get an extra hour really add up, I would stick with 11. He’ll understand when its the day of!
11 is what we are doing and although we arent having an after party, we are going to suggest some bars in the area to go to for guests, like our friends, that want to keep the party going. Is an after party an option?
Post # 13
10-11, though I voted for 10. Our wedding is mostly family so I’m not really sure how long everyone will want to stay but I think maybe 10:30 is when we’ll end. So, about 6-10:30…I think it’s long enough!
Post # 14
I think 11 is perfectly fine. Ours was supposed to be until 11, but we paid an extra $500 to extend it until 12. Since we have a larger wedding, inviting 265, I wanted to make sure that we didn’t run out of time with everything.
Post # 15
Our guests have to leave by 12:00 a.m. At first my German finance was like “WHAT! People stay at weddings until like 5am in Germany!”, but my mom reassured him that my family here will be lucky to make it until 11pm lol
I think at the end of the day you have to consider your guests. Are they night owls or big drinkers/dancers? That is mostly what’s going to be happening past like 9pm, so you’ll have to judge how long you think they can last hehe.
Post # 16
I think mine is the same as yours. Our stuff is all in one place so I think it’ll be:
6:00 cocktail hour
7:00 (or 7:30, undecided) dinner