Post # 1
Before I started posting on WB, I used to just read a lot of the threads to get wedding ideas and read about the drama I may have ahead of me with family, bridesmaid, planning, etc. One day I came across a particular post that had a lot of personal details on it about a person that sounded very familiar to me. Lo and behold, when I checked the person’s Bio page there was a picture of my friend on it. I stressed over whether or not to tell her that someone else was posting such personal details about her and even called my Mom to discuss it before finally telling my friend (the details were just TOO personal) to keep out there.
I know some of you may say that I should’ve contacted the bride and given her the heads up that we had a mutual friend but a) I wasn’t a member of the site yet and b) I felt it was in my friends’ best interest to give her the heads up about what had been posted about her in a very public forum.
So Bees- have you come across anyone you know in real life or know through friends or family on WB? Did you let them know that you were on here and had seen them too or not mention it?
Also, what would you have done in my situation where you find a random Bee talking badly about one of your close friends?
Post # 3
@OzToCaBride: I would have told her too.
Personally I havent run across anyone, but I try not to say anything too personal or negative for just that reason. It makes “venting” virtually impossible, but better than getting verbally assaulted for posting sensitive information on the bee.
Post # 4
I know a handful of engaged ladies so I keep waiting to “bump into” someone I know on here but it hasn’t happened yet.
Post # 5
@OzToCaBride: I actually ran into a former co-worker on here in the past! I sent her a message on FB and she confirmed it was indeed her! I’m always telling people how wonderful this site is, so why wouldn’t they join?!
If my friend, acquaintance, or family member was not being treated nicely, I would most likely intervene! Why not? I would in real life too!
Post # 6
I haven’t run accross anyone personally, but I did have my suspicions up a while ago that someone on here knew my MIL and had been sharing my personal posts and rants with her.
Now that I just got home from our wedding I’ve started a new user name without revealing my old name so that I can keep that sort of thing from happening again. It sucks to loose my old post count, but when I want people to know it’s really me posting on an important topic I can always log into the old name again to chime in 🙂
Post # 7
I haven’t run into anyone I know personally. I did recommend this site to a friend but I don’t think she’s joined yet. 🙂
Post # 8
i’ve stumbled upon a bee i know IRL, a friend of a friend. not someone i see often, but we’re FB friends. i’ve never seen her post anything unbecoming, but she’s amazing and always manages to see the world in the most positive light- i admire that about her & could stand to be more like that! i didn’t mention ‘finding’ her, until i posted on a thread she started, then it was obvious- my picture is right there! so i said hi in my reply=)
i’ve worried a few times about someone finding me on here & what they would say about some things i have said, but sometimes you need a place to get things out & have someone else keep you in check. i’m not sure the details of what you came across, but from the sounds of it, i would have told my friend, or showed it to her & then let her decide if she wanted to read it or not.
Post # 9
Not on WB, but on another board. Actually it kind of sucked, she was not a very nice person to begin with but she was really rude on the boards and her attitude was what made me take someones suggestion and check out WB. My mom will read the boards once in a while, she loves all the pictures. Overall I have had a pretty relaxed wedding experience so if I did see someone I knew, that would be ok with me.
Post # 10
No, thank the lord. I don’t like chatting about rings and such with IRL friends.
Post # 11
In conversation with a coworker last fall, she asked how my wedding planning was going and suggested that I look into this great website called “weddingbee.” Erm, I’ve been a member since last January…. I never did find her, and she never mentioned finding me. She was/is a waiting lady, so she may just be a lurker.
Post # 12
I haven’t run into anyone IRL that is also on Weddingbee, but there are lots of bees I would love to be friends with IRL… 🙂
Post # 13
No but one of my friends found me (actually I had posted something that sounded weird too and caused a little drama!)
I kind of always wonder if I’ll see people I know, but I don’t know that many girls planning weddings right now
Post # 14
Thanks for all the replies! I was really interested to hear if there were many Bees connected irl and also how people would have handled the situation I found myself in.
I think most people do a good job of keeping themselves pretty anonymous on here. I think if someone knew me irl and was on here, they’d be able to recognize me from my location tag because it is so specific, but I’m still up in the air on whether or not to post pics of myself or the Aussie. I also don’t plan on doing any venting on here (though I am dying to share a few etiquette doozies I’ve encountered with 2 of the Aussie’s cousins who are also wedding planning) or putting anything up that I wouldn’t want to be associated with just because I have found a friend of a friend on here and know how randomly it can happen. I’ve learned the art of biting my tongue (or in this case, my fingers) from my blog since even the littlest things have been taken out of context in my group of friends before.
@MrsE.ToBe : Yeah, I agree that everyone should have a safe place to vent, but this Bee went waaaaaaay too far in sharing personal details about my friend that weren’t relevant to the wedding related problem she was asking for help about and that’s part of the reason I felt I had to let my friend know. I think that’s why I hesitate to tell my friend, at first, because I know so many people consider WB a safe place.
@KatyElle: Haha, I know what you mean! All of my friends are married and I hate to feel like I’m boring them with wedding details so it’s nice to come on here and find other people are interested in the perfect navy blue dress or in different ways to use mason jars, etc
@melisslp: Good point, in real life I’m pretty feisty so had I overheard the same convo I read on here, I probably would’ve confronted the person face to face and then let my friend know what I had heard. I was just worried because I know a lot of people find WB to be like their safe haven where they can vent (hopefully) without judgement, but it went beyond a normal vent/talking behind someone’s back so I knew I had to act.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
Nope, never. Though it’d be kind of cool to meet someone else from the Hive!
Post # 16
I am not very anonymous on here as in I dont blur photos and i have written my name a few times but, I dont worry because I dont think there are too many South Australian bees. In saying that I have never vented about someone I know, except DH lol