Post # 1
Every once in a while I see a post asking how much each bee makes or what their men make, or something like that – sizing up value of something. I hardly read them because sometimes I feel inferior, especially when I read things like “I’m so worried because now we only make $______” or “now we’re only saving $_____ every month” while I’m sitting here going “I wish I could MAKE that much” Sometimes I feel not good enough. Sometimes I feel jealous.
And then I have to take a step back and breathe and remember one of my favorite quotes -“No matter how poor you think your life is, there’s someone even poorer who would give anything to have it”
And then I think of what Darling Husband and I do have together – 2 nice cars, a beautiful apartment, a great marriage, and steady work. We don’t have as much as a lot of others, and we can’t spend as much as we’d like as fast as we’d like, but we’re comfortable, and we get by just fine.
I’ve been really stressing over my job interview lately because I don’t want to fail and go back to my normal job but I’ve just had to remind myself that even if I don’t get it, I can keep trying and it’s not like my life will fall apart. There’s a lot of emphasis on striving to succeed and achieve even more but sometimes I just need to be content with what is.
Post # 3
I read this on WB before and it is so true: “The thief of joy is comparison.”
Post # 4
All the time! I feel, it doesn’t matter how much you make, have in the bank, I feel as humans we always want more. I have the same struggles you do. Stepping back and reflecting on what you DO have instead of what you DON’T have is the best way you can deal with this. I wish I had more to say, but I feel the same way you do
Post # 6
Just remember that everyone has problems. “Mo’ money, mo’ problems!” I think it is easy to think someone else has it better. Grass always looks greener. I just try to be thankful for what I do have- a very loving, supportive husband, and some mad under-paid creative skills 🙂 Those are things that can’t be purchased, and remember, money IS a renewable resource. I try to focus on what can’t be renewed. (And I hope my own situation financially will improve! I am sure ours both will, at some point!) I am sure lots of people feel this way.
You aren’t what you make, and I don’t let it define me.
Post # 7
@aliavenue: I saw that quote o Pinterest and I’ve hung onto it 🙂 It’s so true
Post # 8
I’m sometimes amazed by how much people earn or how much their houses cost, but we’re comfortable and happy and that’s the most important thing!
Post # 9
I’m glad you wrote this post! I too can relate to feeling inferior as far as finances go. Usually only when I read something on the boards with very successful bees comparing how much they make, (in one way or another). For me we are fortunate enough to be purchasing a home because we have saved and saved. My fiance has a career that puts us just about at middle class, nothing fancy! My life will consist of cutting coupons and stretching a dollar until his next promotion. But yes we have to remember that for every person more successful than us there are also those with less than us. It’s all ok if we make the best of it. I wish there was a sense of uniting more as women an less relating to eachothers income bracket.
Post # 10
Not at all. I worked hard to get where I am and will harder to get even further. One step at a time.
Post # 11
The only thing that makes me insecure about my income is the fact that I make about half of what Fiance does and I would like to be able to financially contribute more equally in our relationship. I’m not bothered at all by posts on here.
Post # 12
@punkin83: I wish there was a sense of uniting more as women an less relating to eachothers income bracket.
Ditto. I feel weird when people ask me what my dream is because people always expect job-related responses and I honestly don’t have one. My goal is to live a happy life and to finish life being content with who I am as a whole person, and that’s not enough when I give that as an answer. But the thing is, the way I live has never made me unhappy. I’ve only felt unhappy when I’ve compared, as aliavenue so wisely posted.
Not saying people shouldn’t strive to be the best version of themselves possible but sometimes I just get sick of feeling like life is a competition (although in many ways it is – hello, Darwin).