Post # 1
I do my best to get along with people. I have a lot of friends, a few really good ones. I’m not great about keeping in touch but I try and I do my best to see those who are dear to me when I’m at home/where they live. I’ve been realizing lately that I may not matter as much to some of these people that I consider ‘really good friends’ as they do to me. I feel like I’m on the outer circle of their group, I’m an aftertought when it comes to sharing news or inviting people places. I feel like a fringe friend, like I’m not on the top of anyones list, and that makes me sad, and kinda hurts.
That’s all. Just had to share.
Post # 3
I’ve had similar feelings as well, and completely understand where you are coming from. I hope everything does get better for you.
Post # 4
I totally understand. How often do you hang out? I’ve been very busy with work/wedding planning/not going out as much to save $$ and so I can’t hang out with all my friends all the time. It sucks because some of my friends don’t work or have pt jobs so they see each other a lot without me during the daytime.
I consider these ppl my good friends but it probably isnt quite the same for them. Sometimes if you dont want to be on the fringe you have to actively contact those ppl and hang out even if you are tired or busy :p
I think as long as they enjoy your company, and vice versa you should keep your chin up!
Post # 5
@rawrrawr: It’s more that we live so far apart. I was also the first to leave. I went away to school right out of high school, a lot of my friends waited a couple years before going away. Currently, of the 4 that I am specifically thinking of, 1 is in Newfoundland, 1 in Nova Scotia, 1 about 5 hour drive from me, and one about a half hour. The girl who is a half hour away, it’s terrible, we keep trying to make plans but then one of us has to cancel and all of a sudden it’s been 6 months since we saw each other. The girl who’s 5 hours away lives in the same town as my dad and we usually get together any time I’m up there.
deep down, I do know that if I needed any of these girls they would be there for me, we’ve been a part of each others lives for the better part of 20 years or more, it just sucks feeling like you’re forgotten sometimes.
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: It sounds like what I call a situational friend. At my last job, there was a group of people I hung out with and really liked. When I left that job, I stopped talking to them. It wasn’t necessarily intentional, but the situation changed, the convenience factor changed, and the relationships just weren’t important enough to maintain. It is hard to keep up with friendships when the status quo is different, especially when someone moves.
I personally feel friends change throughout your life and that relationships either change/evolve or end. It is just a fact of life, at least in my opinion.