- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I’m just going to vent a little. I never expected an extravegent wedding. My mom and dad are paying for the wedding. She won’t give me a straight answer on what the budget is. She tells me not to worry about it, but we know how that goes, we worry about it. My FFIL is contributing, but he just wants us to tell him what things costs so he can throw money on it. So I am picking the cheapest things possible. Are reception is going to be barbecue. My mom “tsked” at the thought of renting linen because its going to cost too much. So I caved to rolled plastic table clothes, plastic untensils and plates. She is pretty much shooting down what I want, always in a clalm but dissaproving manner. She hates the only lady who can do rentals because she is not professional enough for her. She hates the idea of milk vases (she wants to rent but hates the only lady we can rent from). She didn’t like my aqua and cherry theme. Its like I’m allowed to have what I want as long as its the cheap version of it. Now I feel like my wedding is not any different than a party at someones house. The only difference is that I have a great dress. Its hard to be assertive when you are not contributing to your own wedding because you can’t afford too. How do you make a cheap wedding not feel or look so cheap. I would hate to hate my own reception because it felt like a party anyone would throw. I’m too old to feel like my mom should have so much control. Don’t get me wrong she isn’t hard headed on everything. Just the little things that seem to make a wedding just a little more special than a normal party. She reminds me all the time that at their wedding they only had crepe paper decorating the hall. She is very good at bringing up what you were allowed to do 39 years ago when they got married. But that is a whole different post or I will be writing all day. Thanks for the vent. I think I can go on now.