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I've never heard of a shower being called a "Wedding Shower", either "Bridal Shower" or "Jack & Jill Shower". There's a bunch of different options:
1. Small shower with just ladies - friends, family, coworkers, etc.
2. Jack & Jill with both guys and gals.
3. Community/Church shower where its more of a come-and-go where anyone can come.
All usually have some sort of food and drink served. And like you mentioned, you can register at stores you like and guests can purchase gifts from there. Usually house-hold items. Traditionally, its where the ladies get together to "shower the bride with gifts" so she and her husband will have house-hold items when they start their lives together.
My husband knew... but I wouldn't be too surprised if he didn't because there are mostly boys in his family, so he's never been involved or around one.
We actually had a coed baby shower and one of his single friends was very clueless about that. Of course he knew they existed, but he didn't know that you're supposed to open gifts at the shower so he sent his before. I didn't mind, less stuff for us to lug home!
All first time brides I know get a bridal tea and other miscellaneous showers (lingerie, couples, tool/gadget, etc.).
I give bridal teas where the bride does not open the gifts.
It is understood that men are not allowed.
At a bridal shower---again, no men allowed---but the bride opens gifts and this is much more informal.
Tool/gadget showers, couples showers----men are allowed and can open gifts with the bride.
All involve a registry, though not required---certainly makes life easier for your guests (except lingerie showers).
I think he had heard of it in a vague sort of way, but he had no idea that we got gifts there! lol.
When I was driving home from my shower I texted him to come out and help me, he was like 'what?' and was flabergasted when he saw all the gifts!
FI knew about wedding showers... but I wonder if that's because I attended one 1-2 years ago. Anyways, he now knows what wedding showers are at least.
I got into a bit of a "debate" with another another Bee over this - I'll spare you the details, but showers are a more established tradition than engagement rings!
Check out the wiki entries on them, but the tradition of showers began in the 1890s, but the modern engagement ring was a tradition that didn't really take hold until the 1930s.
We were both aware of what showers were before getting engaged.
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Ladies,
Just checking to see if wedding showers are as common as I thought they were? I was asking my FI if someone (my church) would like to throw us one how would he feel? He had never heard of one. So, I explained its before wedding where he and I get together with others to celebrate our getting married.
At this party we get the gifts off our registry and can choose to open them or no. He was surprised and never knew such a thing exist.
Anyone else this clueless or was your FI clueless????