Post # 1
Hey bees. This weekend has been the most heartbreaking weekend of my life. Thursday afternoon, FI came home and found his beloved cat in a puddle of water (leaking from the AC unit) unable to get up. Having had a history of falling, FI becomes extremely concerned and stays by kitty’s side all night hoping she’ll feel better. He spent the entire night with her; he watched tv with her on his lap, and tucked her in at the foot of his bed just as he had for the past 21 years.
Friday morning he got ready for work and got into his car. He backed out of his driveway and had a really bad feeling in his gut so he decided to call work and let them know he’ll be working from home. Hours later, he finds kitty is breathing really fast and heard the most pain stricken meow he’s ever heard. He decides to take her to the vet and tells them to do whatever they need to.
We went for lunch then went back to his place waiting for a call back from the vet. As I listened to him speaking with the vet, I knew something was wrong. He hung up, sat in front of his desk and as he wrote an email, he could no longer contain himself and just started crying. The vet basically told him they didn’t know if his cat would survive the night but was reassured they would keep her comfortable. Maybe he was in denial, but he kept telling me that he was sure she’d pull through like she has in the past.
Saturday morning comes and I get this phone call from FI. He’s barely able to speak the words admist all the tears and tells me that his cat passed away. I’m getting teary eyed as I type this now because in my head is the image of his face full of pain and anguish. He’s a 26 year old man who just lost the cat he’s loved since the age of 5.
The entire weekend has been tough. I’ve had to see the man I love cry for his lost and have felt utterly useless. It breaks my heart seeing him like this. Nevertheless, I feel absolutely honoured (not sure that’s the right word) that he allowed to see him in his most vulnerable state.
Anyways, I know mourning a pet may seem silly to some and I apologize if you read all of that. Have you ever seen your FI cry and how did it make you feel?
Post # 3
The first time I ever saw my hubby die was when he had to put his dog down…I got to his house, he opened the door, and he just completely broke down. It is really so very sad and all you can do is be there for him.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry to hear about your FI’s cat – losing a pet is like losing a family member. When my FI’s beloved doggy passed away 2 years ago he was heartbroken. FI had his beloved pet for 14 years…and when they had to put her to sleep he just cried…
I’m so sorry again to hear about your FI’s kitty…
Post # 5
We had to put my fiances dog down this year on his birthday, we both cried together. Its never easy putting a pet down.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry to hear that 🙁 Your poor fi (and you!).
I’ve never seen Mr V cry, really – some ‘happy tears’ welling up, but not proper cry. It would break my heart though, I think.
Post # 7
When Mr. S’s grandmother passed away last year. It wasn’t a huge break down but it was nice to be there for him until he could go home to be with his family.
Post # 8
oh how sad! Your story makes MY eyes water.
I actually haven’t seen DH cry. Nothing tragic has really happened in his life since I’ve known him to really set him off.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Ohhh, I’m so sorry to hear about your FH’s loss…That is hard 🙁
I’ve never seen my FH cry but in some wierd way, I wish I had… I guess I cry enough for the two of us (i seriously cry at EVERYTHING….commercials, while running, happy tears, sad tears, etcetc)…
Sorry again for your FH (((HUGS)))
Post # 10
I am so sorry to hear about your FI’s cat. I can’t imagine what that must feel like. I’ve seen my FI cry many times (he’s really emotional.) I feel the same way as you, kind of priviledged that he is willing to let me see him at his most raw. I know you can never “replace” an animal, but are you two thinking of getting another cat soon?
Post # 11
I’m so sorry to hear that. Losing a pet is so very difficult. Hopefully you both can take a little comfort in knowing that his pet lived a (very!) long and happy life with such wonderful owners.
Post # 12
Oh I am so sorry about the kitty!! I always say that I better die before my do b/c I don’t know if I can handle it if she dies!! I never see my FI cry! But like runrgurl10 says … “I cry enough for the two of us!”
Post # 13
I’m so sorry to hear about your fiance’s cat. I’m an animal lover, so I know how hard it can be to lose a longtime companion.
I’ve seen my husband cry a couple of times over the last 13 years we’ve known each other. Of course, at least one of those was sports related (when Michigan went undefeated and won the Rose Bowl & National Championship), so I don’t know if it counts…
Post # 14
I’ve never seen my husband cry. I know there have been times when he has (lost a cousin that was still quite young and full of promise). We were in a long distance relationship at the time though so the best I could do is try to comfort him over the phone, which is incredibly difficult. He has also cried a bit over some dogs that died/had to be put down (he works at an animal shelter and he’s had some favorites that are no longer alive).
Post # 15
So sorry about FI’s cat – that is really difficult.
I have seen my FI cry several times. The first time was when we went to the cemetery where his parents are buried (both passed away several years ago – long before we met)
He’s gotten teary-eyed on various happy and sad occasions – when he proposed, if my children say something really sweet, when he misses his parents, at a recent wedding of his nephew.
He “warned” me that he was emotional – and actually, i too, feel like it speaks volumes that “lets” me see him like that.
Post # 16
*hugs* I’m sorry for your loss.
Yes, I’ve seen FI cry.