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I have heard this so many times, I've lost track!
I have always been curious where this dream comes from, so I asked a few friends. Here are some quotes:
I've always found this fascinating! I don't think I ever thought about my wedding day as a little boy... except the one time I bet my sister one million dollars that I'd never get married.
Did you dream about your wedding day as a little girl? Do you remember what triggered those dreams?
It really wasn't until I was in a relationship for a couple years that I started thinking about what my wedding would look like. I guess I thought about it as a little girl, but never in the detail that I do now :)
I can honestly say that I did not dream about my wedding day. The thought of me getting married did not cross my mind when I was younger. I did not envision my dream guy or anything like that.
When I finally started thinking about marriage, all I could think of was having a huge party. I just wanted to get dressed up and have a nice reception. I didn't even care about the ceremony. My friends say I think more like a guy and that I'm weird which is semi true.
Eh. I think I started thinking about my wedding when TLC started airing that "Wedding Story" show... before all the networks started making it a total social status thing. You know... pre-running of the brides, Say Yes to the Dress, Rock the Reception, The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Bridezilla Shows... ;o)
Tee hee, I used to LOVE wedding magazines when I was about 7 or 8. I wasn't hung up on the wedding itself, just the dresses. I used to get Brides magazine and MaCalls' pattern boks and trace/draw/design wedding dresses. I like HUGE puffy sleeves, sequins and Pricess Di sized trains. In fact remind me to find you all pics of my first communion... I'm a miniaturized not qutie Pricess Di. But I digress, I just liked giant white dresses.
Not really. I thought about it a little, but more in a "foggy" sort of way. I didn't start thinking about actual details until I was in a serious relationship with my FH.
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I never really dreamed about my wedding; I dreamed about finding out what love felt like.
Only since I've been with my FI have I really thought about my wedding. I think we've both known for a long time that we were going to get engaged and eventually married, and I'm excited to plan it and make it happen!
I never dreamt about my wedding day. I DID, however, dream about getting married. It sounds the same, but one focuses on linens and dresses and venues, and the other focuses on actually having found someone to get married to.
Nope, I never dreamed about it until I got engaged. If I ever pictured my wedding in an abstract kind of way, it was a very low-key affair somewhere out in nature. Though I did get married in a redwood grove, I never imagined I'd have 120 guests and a formal dinner at a boutique hotel.
When I was little, I would only think about my wedding when I was going to or was walking in a wedding. I never really thought about what I would do or what colors I would use or anything like that...that started after my FI and I started talking about marriage.
Nope, never dreamed about my wedding day - which made it REAL hard when my FI proposed and I realized I had to come up with a vision for our wedding day.
Mr. Bee, hopefully she forgot about that bet & won't try to collect!
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I seriously thought about my wedding only once when I was a little girl and then only because my friends were all drawing pictures of their 'maids dresses and bridal gowns and flowers and . . . They told me mine was ugly because it was so simple. But, as soon as the ring was on my finger, I jumped into planning with both feet and quickly grew very attached to every idea I had.
I never dreamed about my wedding day when I was a little girl. I think it's because I just new I would get married someday and never thought anything further than that. It wasn't until I met my FI that I started thinking about what my wedding would look like. By the time we got engaged, six years later, I had a pretty good idea of what I wanted the wedding to be like. Now it's just about sharing my vision with my FI, who apparently has his own vision!
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Not only did I never dream about my wedding, I never thought I'd get married or have children. It's amazing how things change.
I STILL don't dream about my wedding day, which could be why I have such a hard time visualizing it!
This is so interesting -- thanks for a great poll! And yeah, I had no thoughts/dreams/images about my wedding until at least age 22!
I dreamed about being married by 28. I never actually thought about the day. I thought about the man and the lifestyle, but never the day of the wedding. I thought I would look like a total cow in a white dress and frankly being walked down the aisle and doing the father/daugher dance made me break out in a sweat!
What's funnier, I remember thinking I'd never actually have a real wedding when I was young because I didn't go to church. I didn't think you could even have a wedding ceremony without being married by a priest/minister in a church. I think I was really really old (we're talking high school) before I realized that you could get married anywhere.
i don't think i ever played anything (house, doctor, teacher, etc.) where i wasn't married with children. it's always been my dream :)
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My parents always used to talk about "One day you'll meet a man, fall in love and get married..." It was far from my mind, I was the biggest tomboy growing up! Until I met my FI, I don't think I ever thought about the actual wedding. I thought more about "ever after" and what our lives would be.
I never really seriously thought that anyone would want to marry me. So I never really thought about a wedding. When I see how much my husband loves me...it means so much to me.
I never really thought about getting married at all, until I was with my ex for over a year. When that ended, I didn't think about it with my fiance until we'd been together for at least that long.
I only ever thought about the guy I would be marrying, the location (very generally!! - IE, on the coast), and the dress. Everything else, I could have cared less as a kid ;)
I never thought I'd ever remarry again. But when I fell head over heels in love, and knew we had to have a wedding because we wanted the children (him 2, me my precious son)to be a part of a family coming together and to solemnize that, it became something we must do.
As a little girl, I had a madame alexander bride doll, but it wasn't my favorite. I did the Barbie thing and had barbie adventures all the time with my friends where she flew in her jet to an exotic locale, was a doctor, and dated both ken and gi joe!
My lifelong bff however, must have dreamed of that day however from birth. She had the biggest, most beautiful wedding I've ever been to! Literally a day fit for a princess.
What's important is how the day makes you feel NOT how extravagant it is imho.
I thought about it in vague terms: pretty white dress, bridesmaids, the church, limos, dancing, guests. Like, I'll wear a pretty poofy white dress, and my best friend Sara will be my maid of honor and I'll invite everyone I know! Linens, vendors and colors never even entered my mind.
I never really thought about my wedding as a kid. My parents got divorced when I was really young, so I wasn't sure I would ever get married. It wasn't until I got together with my fiance until I started picturing and planning my wedding day!
I don't think it's because we're necessarily brainwashed to have a wedding. I think it's more than women are brainwashed to make their entire lives about pleasing other people - their parents, boyfriends, husbands, kids - and your wedding is your one day to have everything be about you. You can throw the exact kind of party you want, have your hair and make up done the way you want, dress your friends the way you want. It's all about you! And that's fun, but it also means people who hardly see you are going to be judging you on how it comes off.
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My aunt worked for a bridal center for several years and they would always get the older bridal magazines and bring them home. As kids my cousins and I would scour the books picking out wedding dress, invite hair style and judge each other's choices picking best win.
I don't ever remember envisioning my wedding day. I prolly didn't want to get my hopes up. I don't think I started to until one of my friends got married a year ago. I have always dreamed about having a husband and family though. 
I didn't know what to choose exactly.
Barbie getting married to Ken was a pretty common story line when I was playing with the neighborhood kids. But we weren't really envisioning our own weddings when we were playing barbies. In any case, the Barbie weddings weren't too elaborate-- put Barbie in the fanciest dress we could find, walk her down the aisle to Ken, big smooch and that was it!
When vendors give you the "Ever since I was a little girl, I have dreamed about my wedding day" line, they are trying to hype the importance of the wedding (as opposed to the marriage) and seduce you into thinking that this really is the most important day of your life so why not spend the $$$?
I never thought too much about my wedding when I was little. Actually, I played "law student" more often than anything else! Man, it was so much more fun back then than the reality...
It's kind of killing me now that FI and I are going to have a "standard" wedding. It seems like a cop-out, after all those years of not caring a bit about weddings. Sigh.
I get annoyed with the "every bride has dreamt about her wedding day since she was a little girl" stuff because a) that's not true for everyone, and b) even if it is true, why would anyone think that at age 27 I want the same wedding I dreamed up when I was 8? News flash: women change! My best friend and I were into fashion and we used to "design" our dream wedding gowns and bridesmaids' dresses. I remember sketching a dress with the biggest, poofiest crinoline known to man and huge puffy sleeves (please remember, we're talking late 80s/early 90s here!), and imagining seven bridesmaids dressed in the seven colors of the rainbow. My real dress is a strapless trumpet silhouette, and my four bridesmaids are wearing navy.
I never really thought about the actual day but I did think of the kind of man he might be (um, totally Gilbert Blythe-esque, natch) and tried to fit it into my life timeline. I thought I'd be married by 26 and have my first baby by 28. HA. Guess I was off by a few years.
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I dreamed about it in a kind of abstract, idle fashion when I was little. I just thought of it as an excuse to wear a pretty dress, but I was kind of grossed out by the thought of kissing a boy.
I went through a wedding-craze phase in my junior year of high school, because my living skills class did a unit on how to plan a wedding. That passed fairly quickly, though.
And actually, Disney did very little to influence me...until it came to the theme of the wedding. Then it came out in spades. :)
I am sooo that girl!
I think for me it was more the hopeless romantic side of me - finding the man of my dreams and standing up in front of my friends and family and declaring my love for him!
As I write this is seems so disney - so maybe I am brainwashed!!!!! LOL
i did and it was all snow white and aurora's fault... i always imagined getting married at christmas (my FAVORITE time of the year) and wearing a fur stole and floating in a dress coming in on a horse drawn carriage etc etc etc... i was a total girlie girl.. i mean come on i cried in lady and the tramp when tramp and the rat was fighting.
Some great threads Mr. Bee. I have NEVER dreamed of my wedding day as a child. Actually, I was adamant that I would NEVER get married :D
I never thought much about getting married until I was in high school. I did, however, always dream about wedding dresses. My grandma was a seamstress and made them (unfortunately she is no longer able due to arthritis, sigh), and she would always have me and all my girl cousins sketch our ideal dresses. The funny part is that when I was little I always said I wanted an all lace dress, no train, very simple, not strapless. Then for the past 5+ years I envisioned myself in a white poofy dress. suddenly all I want again is a lace dress, no train, very simple, not strapless. Funny how I came full circle, I wonder if my grandma will remember! hehe.
No sir, never about the wedding itself. I always dreamed about the man I would one day be married to. They were never as good as I have it now.
Ok, one wedding related detail I have always dreamed about- making my dad wear some form of tie. He has good 30 something years without wearing a tie, and I dream has always been to break that streak at my wedding. Now it is just more of a challenge than anything else. Kinda like how my friends at work are trying to break my 8 year streak of not eating at McDonalds.
It's going to sound super-sad, but I didn't daydream about weddings and the like.
I figured no one would ever care enough for me to want to spend the rest of their lives around me, and I thought all of the girls who daydreamed about that stuff were stupid and wasting their time.
So, I didn't think much about it until after bf and I had been together for a year or so. I felt pretty silly, given my previous stance on wedding-daydreaming.
Now I'm kinda looking forward to it, but I don't think I've fully said to myself "it's likely to happen, start looking/gathering ideas, thinking about what you want" and given myself permission. Ah well. It will come.
I feel like this pictures sort of sums up my childhood. I am the youngest of three girls and my sister's LOVED to dress me up.
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