Post # 1
…and had them accept the position, only to back out only a few days later?
No? Well, I have. (Obviously, this is going to be a rant. [Also, I normally hang out in the TTC/Pregnancy boards. HI!]) So, this is my first year teaching. I ended up with a sweet position at the school where I student taught. Anyway, I have a friend who also graduated in May, but he was having a really hard time finding a job. The school that I’m at is about 25-30 minutes away from him, but he finally came for an interview and my principal hired him on the spot. This was Thursday. I talked the guy up and everything to our principal and I”m sure that held some sway to his getting hired.
Anyway, my friend calls me today to say that another school has offered him a position (after he has already signed all of the paperwork for the job over here.) He then wants to know if I’m mad at him.
Um? I was so stunned that I didn’t even know what to say to him. So we hang up and I realize, screw this! I need to say something. So I tell him that he needs to decide where he’s going so that I can do damage control with my principal since this whole issue makes ME look bad. He tells me he doesn’t want me to be angry with him, but I told him that I couldn’t lie and say that it didn’t annoy me that he was doing this. However, I did say that he has to make the decision that best fits him.
UGAD;KJ. Has anyone else had something similar happen to them? How did it work out with your boss?
Post # 3
@Peffy: That really blows!
I once vouched for a friend in front of her, then told the manager after that I was guilted into bringing her, and he should ABSOLUTELY NOT HIRE HER.
She used to call out like once a week at the last job we worked togther! No way!
Post # 4
@BrandNewBride: Oh my goodness! I would have done the same thing. What makes me so mad is that he’s trying to GUILT ME over it. “I don’t want YOU to be mad at me…” I mean, what does he expect?!
Post # 5
I vouched for a girl when I was working a retail job (at Macy’s). She quit after 6 weeks–right before I got my small bonus for referring her. I was pretty annoyed at that and it made me look bad too. But it wasn’t as big a deal as your situation since it wasn’t my career.
That’s a shitty thing for him to do and I hope a lesson learned on your part. How annoying!
Post # 6
This is tricky. You helped him and had the expectation that he would the position. He likely looked at it as a potential opportunity similar to others he was pursuing. Neither of you is wrong here- I’d feel frustrated for vouching for him. But, he needs to go with the position that best suits him. Ugh. I work for a large university system and people are always askin for help. I try to only help when it is a position I know will be a good fit. In this case you probably did feel that way… sorry this isn’t very helpful at all. I feel your pain though 🙁
Post # 7
@mamadingdong: No, I totally get what you’re saying! And I do want him to be happy, he is a good friend. But at the same time, I still look bad. I definitely learned my lesson. I will NEVER again vouch for someone. Ever!
@JenniMichele: I have MORE than learned my lesson. I was a little iffy about doing it in the first place, but I honestly thought he would have stayed there. At least for this school year. I had no thoughts that he would make his career at this school, but I didn’t think he’d skip out before we even started!!
Post # 8
@Peffy: This hasn’t happened to me, but it happened to my FH.
He was promoted to a team leader position, leaving his former position vacant. His best friend, who also worked there, then inquired about being a candidate for FH’s old job. My FH thought that yes, he would be a great candidate because he was a hard worker, conscientious, etc., so he vouched for this guy up and down.
It gets bad. FH’s friend got the job; however, the Friday before the Monday he was supposed to start, FH’s boss called my FH telling him that they found video evidence of FH’s friend stealing money from people’s cubicles on a few occasions. He was fired immediately. FH was furious with him because he was so stupid to pull something like that, plus the fact that he put him in that position. FH vouched for him and his character! FH’s boss could’ve thought he was in on it, too!
Needless to say, FH cut him off completely. They’ve never spoken again.
Post # 9
@Peffy: That’s really crappy of him! I would be pretty honest: Of course you’re irritated! It’s your career, your word, and you who looks bad now!