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Last weekend, I put on my dress, my veil, had my hair and make up done and met with my photographer for a bridal shoot in a gorgeous old hotel here in KC. It was so fun and I was so anxious to see some of the proofs...
Last night, I am getting ready for bed, and I check my e-mail to see if he had sent any of them. What do I find? A Facebook notification that he has made a facebook album of the photos and tagged me... MEANING THAT EVERY PERSON I AM FRIENDS WITH ON FACEBOOD (roughly 700 people) CAN SEE ME IN MY WEDDING DRESS... INCLUDING MY FIANCE!!!
Yeah, I panicked... a few people started posting on my facebook wall "gorgeous pics" "cant wait to see you in person, you look beautiful" etc. but all I could think of it "my wedding is ruined- there goes the big dramatic moment!!!" and What if the fiance saw them.
I called my photographer immediately (well actually my mother did cause I was on the floor screaming and crying like a 4 year old). this was around midnight. He has posted them around 10pm. apparently he didn't understand that things were open for ALL to see... I don't know. Bottom line, he removed them immediately.
The fiance says that he didnt' see them, he swears that he didnt' see them. But my mother also told him that if he DID see them, he better lie for the rest of his life and say he didn't :) I don't think that many people saw them... but still, It was totally upsetting.
it was my first bridezilla moment... but was I justified in reacting the way I did? and for your viewing enjoyment, one of the pics (note how I will post it on here, but not on facebook!!!)
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Oh, I can totally understand how upsetting that is -- what a nightmare! How careless of your photographer!
Just remember, on the day you will be the BRIDE, and I bet most people who will be there won't have seen the pics of you in your dress.
You look beautiful, by the way!!
He should have cleared posting your pics on the internet through you. I understand how this would be upsetting. If it's any consolation, you look lovely! I love your dress!
Omg, I woulda flipped! That's not right but it seems he really didn't understand what he was doing. Since it was an honest mistake and he took them down, we'll let him live. I'm sure not too many people saw them, and I doubt your future hubby did either. I can tell when my FI's lying, can you? I'd ask again and look deeeeeep into his eyes lol. Ultimately, your wedding isn't ruined because there's nothing like the real thing. Everyone will be floored when they see you in person, I know this cuz the pic is beautiful :o)
wow! I would completely freak out too! I can't imagine the panic you went through last night.
But, you do look fabulous!!!! So hopefully your man didn't see them & even if he did, I am sure you will look even more radiant on your day & take his breath away a second time!
Ugh, how upsetting! Your photographer didn't know? He obviously knew how to post pictures on facebook so you'd think he would know that if he tags you it goes on your page. I'd be horrified but I would think that not that many people would have seen them in the couple hours they were up. And even though the picture you posted is absolutely gorgeous, I bet you will be 10 times more breathtaking at your wedding when people actually see you in person.
Your bridezilla moment is totally justified. I'm glad he was able to take them down quickly. Your pic is beautiful, btw.
Oh wow! Nope, you were totally in the right on this one! I would have FLIPPED OUT!!!!
You look beautiful, though!! :)
Oh no!!! I am glad that your mom took care of it ASAP!! You look so beautiful and I am sure your FI if he did see them he closed his eyes once he realized he saw you!
I would have been really mad. At leas tyou were able to get it worked out and your fiance didn't see them. You look really beautiful.
Here's a nightmare for you - the jewelers BROKE my engagement ring 4 days before my wedding. It's been almost three weeks since the wedding and I'm still trying to work it out.
I do have to ask...is your photographer a "friendor"? This whole thing seems very unprofessional. So as to avoid any other snafus I think you all need to have a sitdown discussion and go over what is expected before your wedding.
Oh hell no that was not a bridezilla moment. Why on earth would the photographer post something so soon of you in your dress? Engagement pics, sure, go ahead! But of the bride BEFORE the wedding day, um, hello, that's a flat out no. I'm glad he took them down, but still, what a dork. I agree with someone else who mentioned about him asking if he could post your pics to his Facebook, there should have been something you agreed to sign first.
As for your photo---I love it :)
Ladies, I can't tell you how wonderful it feels to have other people validate my panic!! Thanks for the support. And I know the day isn't ruined or anything, but in that moment, it was devastating. But, I think we have recovered (no more comments, the pics ar gone, I don't think anyone really saw them that I didn't want to see them)
Heather25: I made my dress!!! Well, I designed it and bought the fabric and worked with a family friend seamstress on it. I was totally freaking out about it, wondering if it would look "bridal" and finished enough, but I couldn't be happier!
Here is another pic of the dress!
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OMG how awful!! Why would a photographer do that??!! I am so sorry and I"m really glad you posted this because I'm now definitely going to warn my photographer not to post ANY pictures of us on Facebook!!
You look beautiful by the way!
you look stunning! I'm glad the photographer was so apologetic & did everything he could to fix the situation for you.
First of all....your dress is gorgeous and YOU look amazing!
I would be throwing a huge fit if that happened to me...I mean some of your facebook friends are probably random people too that you don't want just looking at you in your wedding gown BEFORE your actual wedding! That would be a really weird feeling and especially worrying about your FI seeing it ughhhh!
I think that you handled it like all of us would and I'm glad that your mom took care of it with the photographer. Close call!!!
I would have flipped my lid! I didn't even share pictures of my dress with many people- nevermind me in them, done up, with the accessories!!
That photog is an idiot! I think you were totally justified in being upset!
(And you look AMAZING!)
You look FAB. U. LOUS. !!!!!!! I'm sorry you had to deal with this, but I'm sure even pictures can't ruin it! Besides, you'll have a total bridal glow on your wedding day to add to your gorgeousness!
love your dress... the colour is wonderful... as far as facebook goes, ive decided that site causes so many dramas that alll wedding related items should be banned from facebook
glad he took them down - you are totally justified in your reaction
I'd be pretty upset too! I'm glad you got it solved and it wasn't too late that everyone had seen them!
I would have flipped out too.
No one besides my MOH's, my mother and FMIL have seen my dress. 4 people. Oh and weddingbee-ers but they won't be at the wedding. :)
As a person who deals with Brides all the time he should've known better in my opinion.
I would have been mad too, but at least he removed them immediately. You look lovely BTW. 
STUPID facebook! That happened with my E pictures (obviously not as serious). I didn'twant everyone and their dog looking through every single one of my e pictures. I look disgusting in some of them. Anyway.. Your dress is amazing!
I TOTALLY would have flipped too. That's what weddingbee is for :) LOVE the pictures!
I'd be furious. The only people who saw me in the dress were my mom, my sister (MOH) and the seamstress. I sent pictures to FMIL and my BMs. I think I showed the dress itself to my aunt. Showing all my facebook friends pictures of me in the dress before the wedding? NO.
Geez! How careless...at any rate, though, you look beautiful! Hopefully crisis is now averted!! =)
Kick him where the sun don't shine! Okay so I suck at threatening people...
Thank goodness you found out late at night instead of the next morning after everyone logged into FB at work. It was a careless mistake, but luckily they were taken down really quickly. I'm sure only a small number of friends/family/others saw the pics :)
And if you look that gorgeous in a photo, in person you'll knock the wind out of everyone with your beauty! All the best next weekend!!
I totally agree with you and everyone else on here -- SO CARELESS! But it sounds like all is well at this point and you've recovered :-)
You look stunning, by the way -- your dress seems perfectly suited to you. It's such a gorgeous color and goes so well with your hair and skin. I love that first pic -- it looks antiquey.
OMG I would've been so angry! You had every right to be bridezilla! Very careless of your photographer, and why even on facebook, he should have just emailed you a link!! Well, I'm glad that got taken care of...you look beautiful in your pictures!!
What an idiot! if it helps at all, my photographer put up a picture of me in my UNDERWEAR, ie spanks and a BRA for all to see berfore I found out them demanded they got taken down.
How stupid are people anyways?! I'm sure a lot of people didn't see them in that 2hour time period! At least he answered his phone! Wow what a dummy
WOW!!! I totally would've gone bridezilla too! But your pic is beautiful!
First up, you look amazing!! :D
Next, yes, I would have FREAKED. I'm glad he took them down immediately - probably the best outcome outside of him, you know, NOT DOING THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE, lol. I think you were justified - anyone in the wedding industry should know the whole deal surrounding seeing the bride in her dress. I can't imagine what he was thinking!
He totally should have known better!!! I mean...You haven't even had your wedding day yet! I'm glad he took them down, and I'm glad your FI didn't see them! I would have been so pissed!!!
You look gorgeous, BTW!
You look GORGEOUS! But still, duh. That was totally not a bridezilla moment in the slightest. You were totally justified. Your photographer is not the brightest, but he got some gorgeous pictures of you! Congrats!
Facebook = EVIL
Too dangerous. Hope he doesn't post your wedding pics on FB either.
I WOULD TOTALLY KILL HIM IN fact im going to contact my photographer right now and tell him he better not do this lol. Oh and i know that is really bad but it could of been worse at least your fi didn't walk out on the wedding or cheat on you with your maid of honor or mom now that would be worst wedding nightmare ever lol.
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