(Closed) Every feel like brides are trying too hard?

posted 5 years ago in Decor
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We all try wayyyy tooo hard! That’s why we’re all here. lol.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m a little confused.  How can she be unoriginal (copying the pinterest photos) and trying too hard at the same time?

I think a wedding is a very personal thing and it’s not for anyone to say if someone is trying too hard or being unoriginal.  A lot of women have dreamed of this day all of their lives and just want it to be something they truly love.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I do think blogs/pinterest etc  have created this pretty strong desire/need amongst many women to have a interwebz-worthy wedding.  There have been several posts on the bee with brides feeling hurt and heartbroken that their photos weren’t “blogworthy”.   I don’t know if its trying too hard, or being unoriginal, as much as its just caring way too much about what other people think and seeking validation.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think the extent that some brides go to these days is borderline ridiculous, and Pinterest doesn’t help.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yes, and I’ve felt the pressue to try too hard, as well.At the point when I considered renting a UHaul to transport my vintage sofa to the hotel room where we would be getting ready so that the non-essential pictures of not-actually-the-wedding would be better, I realized I better take a step back.

I think the system is kind of broken. Sometimes I feel like if (A.) I can’t afford to provide  lobster and celebrity chef cake, and (B.)  I don’t have the time to hand-embroider 150 napkins in the midst of taking flower arranging courses, dyeing my crinoline and creating tiny favors of handcrafted strawberry jalapeno jam with little individualized personalized tags, then I should probably just not even bother. (With the wedding, I mean. not the marriage.)

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@EffieTrinket:  Hahahaha! I seriously measured the doorframe of the ballroom to figure out if we can get a piano in there for the ceremony music. A grand piano. For 10 minutes. In a national register of historic places ballroom. That’s when I realized I was losing my mind.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@atlbride2013:  Ah, the best laid plans….. I am sure it will be wonderful anyway! What about a string quartet? Just as elegant, and even the giant double bass is like a quarter the size 😉

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

@atlbride2013:  Hahaha – I probably shouldn’t feed the lions by telling you this, but the way it’s done is that you close up the piano completely (lock it if you can), take it off its legs, tip it to the side to get it through the doorway, and set it back up once it’s in the room. (And when I say “you,” by that I mean “the professional piano movers that you hire to do it for you.”) That’s how you get a grand piano through a normal doorway.

Now, the question for you is, is that too crazy a length to go to? Tongue Out

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think sometimes brides lose thier way during the planning and start to try to impress everyone and outdo all the other brides.  If they focus on making themselves happy and content with wedding/reception they’ll have a much better wedding experience and probably even keep their budgets down.  🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

That situation doesn’t sound too bad to me, but the kind of stuff that Four Weddings does blows my mind sometimes. Since when do you need a bunch of entertainment at a wedding, besides drinks and dancing?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

This is what I fear will become of my wedding because I look online for inspiration and end up saying “I want this exactly!” When I first got engaged I thought I wanted the rustic barn country chic thing, but FI kept telling me “Youve never set foot in a barn or on a farm! Petting zoos don’t count!” So I realized it wasn’t my style. It took me 8 months but I’m starting to be a little more original. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sometimes when we do unique or original weddings they get basehd on… Everyone sayd oh this is how a weding is supposed to be there ar eso many rules and expectations.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@fzesguer:  <– Yes, this.

I think what the OP is getting at, too, is that there’s a difference between something cute and unique that reflects something that’s legitimately relevant to the couple, and weddings where everything is very themed and stylized, but you get the feeling it was chosen because it was trendy and not because it reflects anything special about Jake and Susie, or whatever.

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