- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I’m just tired of always having to be the ice breaker! It’s like every weekend we end up in a disgareement/argument whatever and I hate it, especially because he NEVER is the one to break the ice.
For instance, tonight, on my way home, I had dressed up today for a work event and I knew I looked good, and was hoping it would be a good night (especially since I felt good), and I was really excited to see DH since I was already dressed really nice, and it is the weekend, and I was just happy that we don’t have plans all weekend so it would be a great time to just be together after a long work week.
The neighbor below us has a dog that barks constantly, and it’s obnoxious, but when DH took our dog out when we both got home (so I was the only one inside), I heard this HORRIBLE noise from the dog downstairs (like a painful sound that kept going, and then it started whining). It scared me, and I walked outside to DH, set on going to the leasing office and saying something was wrong (since they have a key and could check on the dog). I’m not a hugely over emotional animal person so this has never happened before or anything, but it bothered me, and I told him about it, and he completely ignored me. I literally was afraid because of the awful noise this dog made and came out sort of alarmed and he didn’t say anything, and then changed the subject. When I was visibly displeased (I didn’t say anything, but I was hurt that he completely ignored me!) when he changed the subject, he got mad and said well there’s nothing we can do anyway. I told him that its annoying when he completely disregards me, and I wouldn’t have dashed outside if I wasn’t really alarmed by it. He hasn’t talked to me since, and that was 6 hours ago!
I just hate having to be the one that “breaks the ice” especially when I never verbally started anything. I was concerned about the pet downstairs, and I was obviously alarmed, and he just acted like it was annoying and unimportat and since I was worried, he’s pissed! WTF?! It’s like I don’t even do anyhting wrong and he just avoids me, and this happens every weekend!
Side note: We have been married a month. It isn’t like these things last ALL weekend, but that is because *I* am the one to end it all the time, and I can’t keep doing it!