Everybody keeps questioning my upcoming wedding :(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Hopefully once the wedding is over, they will stop annoying you about it.

You are very young to get married.. I think most people just imagine themselves marrying the person they were at your age and think “oh hell no!”.

Don’t justify it for them… just smile and say you’re excited about it. No point arguing, right?

Post # 4
42182 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mco06:  Learn to let these things fly over your head. In one ear and out the other.

You are young, and statistics are against you, but there are always those who buck the odds.

Your wedding is 3 months away. It is inappropriate for people who don’t know the two fo you very well to even be commenting.

Just remember that they are speaking in general terms, and not specifically about you and your FI.

Post # 5
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@mco06:  I would try to ignore it. You said you recently switched jobs, so that means they don’t really know you and your situation. Unfortunately for you, people are quick to give their two cents about younger marriages. They probably think they are helping you out with their advice, but they obviously aren’t. All that matters is that you are happy and excited to be getting married. Tell them a little of what you told us next time they say something negative.

Good luck with the remaining wedding planning 🙂 

Post # 6
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Honestly, you are young to be getting married.  I am 24 and will be 25 when I get married am people constantly tell me I am too young.  People will always have opinions and it’s important for you to stay true to yourself.

WIth that being said, I have always been mature for my age but I have changed A LOT since I was 20.  As long as you guys are patient and understanding and willing to grow and make it work together, you will be fine.

Everyone is different and we all take different journeys..don’t let other people deter from yours!

Post # 7
2133 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think people often think about how they were when they were 21 and they think they’re looking out for you. I think more often than not, it’s coming from a good place. I was a young bride too (23) and I can empathize with your situation. You only have three more month to endure it and then they’ll have no choice but to let it go!

Post # 8
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are very young. But you know what? My sister got married at 20 and 10 years later is still so happy, has 3 beautiful kids, etc.  I am almost 30 and getting married (not old by any stretch, but older)

Here is how I see it – you will miss out on stuff. Just I like I missed out on stuff.  Being single and being married both have benefits and many of those benefits are mutually exclusive. I will never have a had the experience of “growing up” with my partner. My sister will never know what it is like to be out on her own in life. The list goes on and on.  

Your whole life is choices and every choice means you aren’t choosing something else.  You sound sure this is what you want. Go for it. Don’t look back. Commit entirely. Know you are “missing out” but embrace all the things you have instead that others might “miss out on.”  No one part of me wishes I had married younger and surely not one part of my sister wishes she had waited.

Post # 9
2700 posts
Sugar bee

You are very young and people will judge. If you are sure about your decision then just ignore them.

Post # 10
3731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mco06:  Fuck what everyone else thinks. You do what makes you happy and fuck everyone else. 



And since you are young, I will impart one piece of advice to you: Lower your give-a-shit factor. Best piece of advice I’ve ever gotten and it applies to all situations and circumstances. 


Congratulations on your upcoming wedding and best wishes 🙂

Post # 12
84 posts
Worker bee

Huummmm tough question, may I ask how long you’ve been dating?

Post # 14
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@mco06 I know I commented early but I just wanted to say that for being so young I think you have a good head on your shoulders and you will be fine.

Post # 16
1018 posts
Bumble bee

@mco06:  I tend to judge people who get married so young but #1 I do it silently…I would NEVER tell them they were making a mistake – that’s none of my business, and #2 I’m mature enough to realize my judgement stems from my own issues/experiences and has little to nothing to do with the couple personally, so I let it go.

I’ve been with my SO for a long time and am in my [almost] mid twenties. We got together when I was 16, if I had married him at 20 I think we’d still be together (afterall, we’re still together now! Just not married). I’m really glad we waited, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing not to wait.

It’s hard for people not to judge with all the statistics out there, but it shouldn’t be hard for them to shut their mouths.

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