Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
More of vent than anything
My wedding is a small gathering of no more than 60 people. I told everyone its going to be a relaxed outdoor feel and please wear whatever you want. I had a cousin who imposed a purple and grey them with fascinators for the women on all his guests and I hated the idea of everyone being so matchy matchy and telling your guests what to wear.
Originally … my main colours were purple and Ivory. I told the mothers they could wear whatever they want, including granny, we are dealing with 4 mothers. All of them decided that because they wer important they wanted to wear the same colour or a near colour to the BMs purple. That was just like grrr … theres just going to be too much purple.
Later I added the gold element to my colours to soften colour and as FI went for brown suit it worked better, purple became more of an accent colour. I tried and tried to keep the gold a secret but when I started ordering gold cravat ties for the groomsmen and bow ties for the ring bearers, word got out. Now my mum is wearing gold which is fine, shes my mummy but his sister is also going for gold and he has 4 sisters … so I know this is trickling out further.
I really dont want everyone in purple and gold … I think its a bit ridiculous that now even his sisters trying to match the bridal party. I know its not a big deal but I would have loved to see my guests in a variety of clothes in a natural setting. My auntys just asked for the colour code and I said there isnt one so I hope theyll wear whatever they want. Where did this idea of everyone trying to match the party come from anyway??
Post # 3
That seems really odd to me – I always try to pay attention to the color scheme of the STDs and invites so that I don’t wear one of the wedding colors!
Our colors were green and gold with purple accents and neither the mothers nor non-wedding party guests tried to match our colors.
Post # 4
That’s weird. = Maybe you could respectfully ask them NOT to wear the bridal party colors? I mean, your family that will be in photos is fine, I guess. Idk, my FMIL is wearing brown (which is an accent color at best – we’re burgundy/orange) and I think my mom might wear gold? So they’ll go with the overall scheme but won’t be in bridal colors. So maybe suggest they get coordinating colors that accent your colors but aren’t absolutely the bridal colors?
Post # 5
@leecy87: I want my mummy and my FMIL to look similar to the bridal party (only 2 BM’s so that’s perfect) but Ive never seen sisters, aunts etc match the party, and personally I think its a little rude for them to TELL you they’re wearing one of your wedding colours. I would request for attendees to stick to non-wedding colours, if they ask why just say you want both your party and guests to stick out, not tohave everyone mould into one!
Post # 6
Remember that the reason you DON’T want people matchy-matchy is because you think it symbolies telling people what they can and cannot wear. But trying to STOP them wearing matchy-matchy is exactly the same thing!
At least your photos will be beautiful and you are certain to pop in your white dress. Family photos actually look better when people are dressed similarly. The dresses will still be in people’s personal style.
The BM’s will still stand out because of their flowers, youth and the photos you have with them. If you want them to feel extra special then you can name and feature them in your program (if you are having one).