Post # 1
So I do not know if any of your relate to this, but it seems like everytime I get onto facebook there is a new person engaged, married, or pregnant.
I have come to a conclusion that my SO will propose if not this weekend(our 4 year anniversary), then on New Years which is super duper exciting, and I have kept my peace and not mentioned a word, because I want it to be super special for both him and me.
But I wonder that everytime I mention a new person that is engaged to him, if he thinks I am trying to hint something to him. I wonder if it bothers him. He never really has much reaction when I tell him and just nods his head.
Do this ever happen to you guys? I wonder if I have some jelousy in my tone of voice. I do not think that I do. I really just do not want him to have the wrong idea, when I am not trying to be naggy or dropping hints.
Post # 3
Don’t stress it, it’s not like your making up engagements just so you can tell him, and possibly discuss your upcoming one (YAY!)
Post # 4
I’m in the exact same boat as you are!
I’m trying to handle my feelings of jealousy about it, and I know it can be difficult, so when I see something like that I’ll go ahead and tell my SO,’wow, did you know so-and-so is getting married?’ just to get it out of my system. I think it’s better to just go ahead and say something than to let it sit there and the ‘why not me’ chain of thought start.
I think it depends on your SO as to how they’ll respond to it. I can tell mine is feeling the pressure, because when I do mention it he gets clearly flustered and talks about how he doesn’t understand how people our age can afford engagement rings. I wouldn’t want to be pressured either, so I really try hard not to lay it on thick.
Post # 5
I understand how you feel, but at least you know its coming for you. My SO says he wants to marry me, but yet still no ring. we have been together for 6 years and have 2 kids. Im ALWAYS a bridesmaid, its so sad. some friends of ours got married this past July we both we’re in the wedding. now we both are in ANOTHER couple wedding too, in June. our oldest daughter is even the flower girl. I hope when we walk down the aisle togther, then see our little girl he will GET ON IT!! Im trying to get better at not saying anything wedding related. but its so hard when EVERYONE around us is engaged or married. We are the last ones, and Im starting to believe it will NEVER happen. Sorry for my rant. just know your not alone.
Post # 6
@misskittenn: Yeah there was one engagment that really made me jealous, and it was not like I wasnt happy for them, I just always that that I would be engaged before them.
It was mutual friends of my boyfiend and I, and they always said that it would be a while until they were engaged. But one weekend it showed up on facebook. The guy didnt tell my SO and discuss it with him, we did not even recieve a text.
So I do know that is that instance I did sound jealous because I have always figured my SO and I would be the first of our friends engaged. That probably sounds awful, but they just never gave us any hint that it was at all soon. It just came out of the blue.
@Mz_HyProfyl: Well I hope that he proposes sometime soon. Obvisouly you guys have commited your lives together, and love each other. Goodluck! I bet he will surprise you when he does finally pop the question. 🙂 It is nice to know that I am not the only one in the same position.
@Nona99: I proabably sould not stress, because if he has not come to terms that he is doing this soon anyways, i do not know what to think. lol
Post # 7
I’m convinced that guys are wired to have NO emotional response to the things that bother us the most! It’s okay to feel jealous, it comes out sometimes. It’s really difficult but you’re not alone!
Post # 8
@katy13: Yes this has happened to me and I’ve poted about it.
23 years old, wanting to get married already!
Luckily the responses I have been getting have made me realize that with time it will come! Just gives me something to look forward to!
I hope he does propose to you, but at the same time don’t get your hopes up! It would suck if for some reason he didn’t and you’d be pretty disappointed. Good luck!