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I think you should just go and enjoy yourself with your closest friends. I am sure you will have an awesome time. Since there are only five or six of you, you should be able to do a lot more.
i'm sorry you're so upset... sounds like those girls could have at least handled the situation better if they weren't going to be able to go. my advice? don't be bummed- i say screw them! four or five people is ALL you need to have a blast on any trip, in my opinion... let alone VEGAS :) i hope you have an amazing time and leave all your troubles behind.
Oh, I definitely think it would still be worth it and I think you'll have a better time knowing you're with people who truly care about you and are your closest friends. 4-5 girls is absolutely plenty and I think you'll have a wonderful time. :)
And I'm sorry those other girls did that!
My best friend had... all but me back out on her. It was pathetic, and I REALLY wish I could make it up to her somehow (she was talking about inviting the same people to my bachelorette party - no thanks.) It's not just you.
And it'll be great - and you're going to be there with truly good friends.
A similar thing happened with me. My MOH invited 18 people to my shower/bachelorette weekend, based in DC. A lot of the invitees live in Pittsburgh (where I live). Five attended the shower and six came to the bachelorette. Only one person who declined told me she was unable to attend, and she ended up arranging a spa day for us back in Pittsburgh. As for the rest of them, I'm still really hurt. With that said - GO! GO! GO! I had a *fantastic* time at my bachelorette party, even with the low turnout.
I think you'll still have fun with a small group- especially if these are your close friends. You can't really worry about the people that bailed. It REALLY sucks, but for many people their priority is to themselves. I'd just assume they don't know how much this means to you, not that they don't want to go. I've had parties recently, notably my last Birthday party, where I was so hurt that people said they would come and then didn't show up. Ugh! people can be so annoying. But in the end, your MOH has planned a great bachelorette, so enjoy it!
I think you should still go and enjoy yourself---some people I tell ya they didnt even have the decency to call, to be honest if it were me I would uninvite them from my wedding as well because what they did is disrespectful and childish. I am so sorry this happen to you....This is one of the reasons why I am not doing a bachelorette party or bridal shower...
GO - PLEASE GO - - My bachelorette is this weekend in SF and I went through a very similar situation. 14 girls were invited to my bachelorette - its going to be my bm's only and one of them will be missing, she is my closest friend! Including me there are 7 of us.
I was so hurt when my bff let me know she wouldn't be making it. I was beyond hurt - I was crushed devastated. Then I became angry flat out mad and I just didn't get it. But then I didn't want to get it. I knew that whatever it was - it was and there wasn't anything I could do.
NO these friends don't like you less. They still like you and love you they just aren't able to make it and they probably feel like crap. Go and have the best time of your life. Live it up - the friends that are going they'll make it worth every second for you!
Be sure to take tons of pictures 
Go!!! The last time I was in Vegas I saw a bride-to-be w/ 2 of her friends & they were having a blast! Do not let the others get you down. Your good friends want to go & I'm sure they're as excited as you are, and are looking forward to showing you a great time.
I have to say, I'm in the exact same situation as you. But I made the decision that I was not going to let it bother me. As long as people are there for the wedding, I am a-okay.
4-5 people in Vegas will still be TONS of fun!! And it will be even better because at least you will KNOW you will be having fun because they WANT to be there!!!
Have fun!
5 people in Vegas is the perfect amount! Any more and it's like herding cattle. You are going to have a ball. The other girls backing out is not a reflection on you at all. There are a million reasons. times are hard, money is tight, the boyfriend doesn't like the idea of a girls weekend in vegas, work, the list goes on and on. Obviously they didn't handle it very well, but it doesn't mean they don't like, you. Have the best time in Vegas. Make sure to hydrate :-)
If you really want to go there, then go!! It'll be fun even with less people. Personally we couldn't arrrange such an event with girls all over the country and in different financial situations. We had a party - just local bars 2 nights before the wedding when they all got into town. Maybe you could do something like that.
I think you should go anyway. In my experience, large groups of girls are a giant pain in the ass. You'll probably have MORE fun with a small group since it'll be more laid back.
I would personally rather be surrounded by 4 of my closest friends who obviously really wanted to be there than 10 people who were iffy about it and didn't have my best interests in mind. This same thing happened at my MI shower (where DH is from). My wonderful MIL's spent so much time, money and energy organizing it and most of the invitees ended up backing out of coming. We were originally expecting around 15-20 and it ended up being 8 of us. But it ended up being such a great day and the bonus was that i got to spend more quality time with the 7 ladies who obviously I'm closest to! It was easier for us to do all of the activites we had planned and just worked out for the better.
Trust me, at your bachelorette party you don't want anyone comign who is a 'diva' and will take the spotlight away from you. The people who are making the effort sound like they are clearly doing it selflessly for you so it sounds like a really perfect situation to me!
Oh definatly still go!! It will almost be better because you won't have a dozen people to keep track of. You'll sit down to dinner sooner; be ready to leave sooner. I think god is looking out for you! It will still be a blast!!! GO GO GO!!
GO GO GO! A similar thing happened to me and I went with 3 girls (down from 8) and it was amazing and I wouldn't have changed a thing!
I can offer perspective from the other end - I've been invited to about 10 weekend bachelorette parties in the last few years, ranging from Vegas to New Orleans to Newport, RI. I've only been to one. Why? I can't afford to set aside two separate weekends to fly somewhere, spend money on hotel and food and drinks for BOTH a bachelorette party AND a wedding (and do so multiple times in one summer) - I went to 10 weddings in 2008 and 0 bachelorette weekends. I felt bad not being able to attend, but unfortunately sometimes that's the way it goes :( Absolutely do NOT take it personally or think it reflects poorly on you! The bigger issue I think is the backing out - I'm so sorry to hear they all committed in the first place and can totally understand why you'd feel hurt. I can tell you it'll be way MORE fun with a smaller group of close friends in Vegas - you guys will have a blast!!!!
I would also go if I were you! There were about 20 girls invited to my bachelorette party, and only 7 ended up going. About half of my bridesmaids weren't able to make it which was fine. Not everyone can afford to do a lot right now with the economy being the way it is, so try not to take it personally. They might have been able to handle it better, but they were probably trying to avoid disappointing you directly. It's easier to cop out to someone you don't know as well than it is to your friend directly. So try not to take it as people not liking you. They like you fine...they don't like the price tag of the trip fine though which is more than likely the problem. Have fun with the girls who you are going with and don't sweat the people who aren't there!
Also in my experience it is hard to get people together for a trip. Especially a big group out of city let alone state. Either money issues or prior obligations, family, work, you name it. I almost didn't make my bff's cruise this Sep coming up because i have a husband and step children a job and work. I would hate for her to think I didn't like her. I made it but it was hard. Well I paid for it.. still have a few weeks until.. She went from about 15 to 11.. even if it was 3 of us we would have a blast. That's just us.. we don't need a million people to have a good time. Its actually easier too. Less opinions to worry about or wait for if you ask me
I think you should deff go anyway! It will be so much fun! Personally I know I would have much more fun with a smaller group then a larger one!
I think a lot of people end up backing out of these types of things once they realize the cost & time. Even after they say yes I think they get really excited at first and then reality sets in.
Enjoy yourself and let us know how much fun you had!
Go! Who cares why the other girls backed out? They are going to miss out in all the fun! And a group of 5 or 6 girls in Vegas sounds like mad fun to me! :)
Hey!!!! I totally know the feeling! Been talking for months about our vegas bachelor/bachelorette party and I planned it all around my pseudo MOH (I actually don't have a wedding party but she is playing the part). And not only did most everyone back out but my pseudo MOH isn't even returning my calls. So our of 15 there will be 4... what weekend are you headed there? Mine is 8/27-8/29....
This happens all the time and you cant take it personally. i just had my stagette and tons of girls who were all "yes yes yes" backed out when push came to shove. Now i am on the other side as MOH and trying to plan a stagette and shower and all her friends BAILED and its just me and her sisters now!!
Go to Vegas, four is alot...you will have fun!
That's exactly when mine is!! haha...that is so funny! What do you guys have planned/where are you staying?
Thank you so much everyone, U definately feel better. I know we will still have fun. I guess I'm just so surprised/disappointed of how people are nowadays. Thank yOU!
I would go! FI went with his 3 close guy friends and they had a blast! Your closest friends are there and that's what's most important.
sorry this has happened to you.. the way the economy is these days its very possible that money is a big reason why people have backed out of it.. so they may still love u very much as a friend but simply cant afford to go to vegas with u. my friend got upset when ppl backed out of her wedding party but it was in europe and some of the BMs just couldnt afford the whole thing
I had a very small bachelorette with 4 of my close friends in Whistler. Originally we were expecting more like 10 people, but I still had a BLAST, and while I was a little hurt that others couldn't make it, as many have pointed out, there are lots of reasons why people won't go to the destination bachelorette.
Personally, I hate planning trips away with friends, becuase it is often stressful to get people to commit and not back out. When it works out it is often a miracle!
Ok, Vegas will absolutely be fun with 5 girls. I went with just DH and we had a blast.
My stagette was just me, my sister and two best friends doing winery tours, and then just went home for drinks and board games and it was fun. Pretty much any time you get your closest friends together it's a good time
I think Vegas is going to be more fun with just 4 people than it would be with 10 or so. You gals can go where you want and do what you want without having to appease SO many people. Go, have a good time with the girls who can go and enjoy yourself!
Same thing happened to me. Planned a bachelorette to Vegas and thought at least 5 people would show but in the end it was just me, my maid of Honor and her sister. But with less people we were able to spend a day at the spa so look on the bright side. You can spend more money on other stuff! Plus it's hard to get a lot of people to agree on the same thing. You'll be able to do more of what you want to do.
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I am so bummed. For the last two months, my MOH has tried putting together a bachelorette party in vegas. We invited nearly 13 or 14 people, of which most said they were coming. A few backed out prior to booking hotel, but once hotel was booked and paid for, about 6 other people backed out. I thought these people were my "friends" and I'm very disappointed, hurt and upset needless to say. Each person has some excuse w/ all kinds of different reasons. Please be honest, do these gals just not like me for some reason??? I truly don't get it. To make matters worse, many backed out after committed financially etc. and none of them bothered to call me, email me or anything. I had to find out through my friend. It's especially hurtful since I find myself trying to always be there for others.
My question is, it's now down to four or five people including me. My closest friends of course. Is it even worth going to vegas or is that silly w/ only four people? This has been a very hard and hurtful time when I thought it would be the most joyous part of my life. I am just not this type of person to do this to someone else. Thanks for any comments:)