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I'm sorry. :( On the other hand, yay for affirmative RSVPs! Better than everyone saying no, right?
Haha, true, that's the bright side - I guess we're extremely well liked?
That is very irritating but on the other hand maybe they will get you really good gifts!
I'm sorry that happened (only because you seem to not want that). But I'm actually fearing the same thing! Our guestlist doubled because of our parents, but because we're having a DW were hoping only half will come! But our parents said the same thing ("they're not coming") so now you got me scared!
Oh wow, that's pretty much unheard of. I'm sorry! You couldn't of seen that coming, obviously neight did you FMIL.
Here's hoping they all bring good gifts! 
I'm sorry this is so tough for you. Inviting half-strangers because they were family or my parents friends was difficult for me at first but we made a compromise on how many people to invite.
It's tough to find a happy medium with a guest count. You're told to guess higher bc people will say now and than even when people do RSVP you're disappointed they're not coming! I had a lower number RSVP, but people I wanted there couldn't come and people I was apathetic about coming, came. All that to say, you do have to "suck it up" as you put it, but I think you'll find that it will disappear somewhat as other wedding stresses coming up in the next 4 weeks. You're going to be a busy lady!
Just wanted to let you know I sympathize!
*hugs* I'm sorry - this totally sucks. I'm hoping we get to avoid this from happening ... but I get a bad feeling everytime I talk to FMIL!
Thanks for the support everybody :)
I just don't get it really. My family is HUGE, but it's just my dad's side, so it was really easy for my parents to say who they wanted, there was no question about it, and I wouldn't have dreamed of inviting the random relatives on the outskirts of our family bc I don't know them. Nobody even asked if Great Uncle so-and-so was invited, and my parents didn't care. For his family it was a total MUST that x y and z get invited, and I just didn't understand it, or know what to expect.
I jsut feel so awkward thinking of walking down the aisle and the vows and everything and seeing a big crowd of people I don't know.
But you all are right - I'm sure I won't be thinking about it at all when the wedding actually gets here. Breathe. Haha.
Oh jeez, I totally know where you're coming from. I only really want people I know at the wedding. Anyone who doesn't know me or FH will not get it, but during the time we've been engaged, I hear about all these randoms that his family wants to be there. FMIL's second cousin and all his kids? REALLY? I've never even seen you, let alone want you to be a part of one of the most important days of my life. I want really badly to have the feeling that I've heard other brides talk about, where you walk into the ceremony and you just feel totally engulfed because everyone there loves you. I don't know if that will be the same if there are a bunch of unfamiliar faces and strangers...Maybe I'm overreacting, and maybe things will be fine, but I can't shake that feeling. So, I'm right there with you! I guess I would say just grin and bear it. There's not much else you can do. At least you can afford to have everyone there.
I find it weird that all of those people said "yes". Personally, as a guest, I would feel strange attending a wedding if I didn't know the couple. Then again, I've never been one of those "wedding as reunion" sorts of people, and our guest list will be 95% friends, 5% family.
My thoughts exactly, redherring. It's just weird to me. I don't get how people see it as a reunion, either.
I understand not wanting random people you don't know there. We didn't add FI's parents friends from way back when that he'd never met much to his mom's dismay. We stuck to family and only the very closest friends. My family is the type that they ALL get together ALL the time. I do kinda see my wedding as a reunion. I just want both sides of both families to meet and mesh since it probably won't happen again. We didn't invite all the great aunt so and so's though. Just aunts, uncles, cousins, and their kids (my mom and dad have 5 & 6 siblings respectively so our family is big). My extended family all lives in the same county so they already know each other and get along anyway so it'll be great for me to have everyone in one place! I can't imagine a 98% acceptance rate though... I would be stressed too.
I guess I'd be worry that people would change their minds and not come at the last minute. That's probably the most annoying!
I'm not at this point yet ..but i can only think of 1 bright side and as wrong this may seem ..it is a bright side ...Atleast you'll get More present :) , if they ask what u guys want ..tell your fmil to tell them , that Money would be the best gift...
Oh gosh, I am so sorry to hear about that.. your outcome is my biggest fear. :(
When we got engaged, I wanted to do a small wedding - 75 people at the most. My fiance really wanted to have a bigger wedding because he wanted to share it with everyone, so I said okay, and now our guest list is about 175. I have maybe 50 guests, if that, on the list. Before I knew it, we were adding his great aunts and uncles at his mom's request. I'm hoping we'll have only about 125 RSVPs.
You poor thing. I feel so bad for you. Just hang in there. Like previous posters have said, at least they're looking forward to the wedding. I mean, at least you know they think enough of you and your fiance to come to the wedding, eh? :)
*Big hugs* Sorry you're stressed. I can't blame you.
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I'm having a meltdown right now.
When we were first planning our wedding, I wanted something as small and low-fuss as possible because I wanted to make sure everybody there really really knew us both super well and I don't like being the center of attention. My FI really wanted it larger, to be in our church, etc. Since it was so important to him, and bc I hadn't thought about weddings EVER before getting engaged, I was like, eh, fine, it'll be fun.
His mom kept adding people to the guest list (love her to death, but this irked me). We contested some of them, but let it go with others because she assured us they wouldnt come, she just really wanted to make sure they got an invite. Fine. I don't understand it, but whatever.
All these people? The ones that she was completely sure would be a no?
THEY ARE ALL COMING.
Seriously, this makes our RSVP response rate like, 98%. We have the money to accomodate it (though I was really hoping for money leftover!), but I'm so sad that all these people I don't know WILL be there, seeing vows that they can't possibly care about because they don't know us, eating our food and going home early bc they live two hours away. I mean really, I'm pretty livid about this. I do'nt know what to do! I don't have a choice, obviously, we have to just suck it up. They're coming.
But has this happened to anyone else? Did it go well for you???