Post # 1
…well, mostly DH’s friends, but its the couples that we hang out with most. We know this seems selfish, but we feel like we’re gonna be left in the baby-dust and won’t be able to have any fun adult-hang out’s anymore.
One of DH’s cousins made a comment to Mother-In-Law that Darling Husband and I haven’t been hanging out with them very often. *Yikes…* J & M have a 2 and 1/2 year old and M is pregnant with #2 right now. We LOVE hanging out with them, but we don’t always want to go to their house and have to watch “Toopy and Bino” while little J is constantly interrupting our conversations.
Now, DH’s other cousin’s are pregnant. We are THRILLED for them as they’ve been trying for a couple years, doing fertility treatments and such. We hang out with A & E quite often and Darling Husband and E are very close. So when E told Darling Husband the news Darling Husband made a comment (a bit jokingly) that “Well I guess you guys will be hanging out with J & M more often then.” E was a stung by this, Darling Husband apologized but E said that he “totally understands what he means.”
We’ve only been married for a couple months, so serious baby-talk won’t be happening for a couple years. We want to do the fun newlywed stuff before we get strapped down by little ones. Now it seems like we’ll be doing that alone…
Post # 3
We went through this w/ DH’s friends. They were all having babies right around the time that we got engaged. It definitely made for a different social dynamic once all of the babies started arriving, but we adjusted. There were more brunches, fewer dinners out, and we started hanging out more with our other childlless friends. Now a couple of years later, we’re catching all of DH’s friends on round two. We’re expecting baby #1, and many of them are having their second. So in the end we don’t really feel like we were left in the dust by too much… plus we can benefit from all of their expertise with child-rearing.
Post # 4
We’re in the same situation: just married, but we have a lot of friends starting to have kids. We are not there yet. I have been a little bummed recently because one of my good friends started hanging out with a girl who we can’t stand (she has admitted to it, too) only because they both had babies within months of each other. It wouldn’t be a big deal except this other girl is kind of one of those toxic friends who only likes to gossip about people. I just sometimes feel like the people with kids have their own “baby club” and they don’t really have time for friends without kids, but I’m thinking it will eventually pass once they want to have nights out again. We’ll see, but I know how you feel.
Post # 5
@CherryWaves: It’s true. We are not necessarily ready for a baby, but it still gets at me a bit when I see so many posts or whatever have you about being pregnant. Don’t get me wrong, I’m very excited for everyone. FI’s friend and his wife are finally expecting. We’re super stoked for them as they’ve been trying for years.
Post # 6
Glad we’re not the only ones out there…
@skibobrown: This is exactly how we feel with the two couples I mentioned. Darling Husband was left out when they were doing couply things and he was single, and then when I came we were able to get in the groove. Deja-vu with the babies, now.
I think its harder, too, because these are couples that are the closest in proximity to us and we were getting really excited for them to move out here, hanging out more, going on motorcycle trips (we just bought a new one!), etc etc. Le sigh…
Post # 7
@CherryWaves: We’ve still got plenty of friends who aren’t preggers (actually, still plenty of folks who are still single) — but! NINE people in my department have had/will be having babies this year. Babies everywhere!
Post # 8
@village_skeptic: Yeah, we have single and long-term relationship friends as well, but they’re a bit further away so it’s harder to make plans on a whim. We have 4 friends/family that are due in the spring, alone.
Post # 9
Tell me about it. 🙁 You can’t escape it on the website either. We found out at noon on Dec 1 that my husband is sterile, so it’s been really hard. I have heard 15 pregnancy annoucements since we found out too, one a week is average.