Everyone keeps saying we should wait…

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
1022 posts
Bumble bee

You and Hubby are the only ones that can make this decision. There is also no guarentee that you will get pregnant right away it could take a few months or even years to concieve. If you want to start then start!!


Post # 4
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@PoppyH:  +1 I agree 

Post # 5
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think the timing will never be perfect for a baby, for anyone.  If you and DH are ready, then the time is now!

Post # 6
1689 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

once it happens, your family will be happy. You make the decision that is right for you and your husband, not for anyone else. 

Post # 7
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s you decision, not your family’s. If you both feel ready then go for it. There will always be something or someone telling you to wait and there will never be a perfect time, but it sounds like you’ve really thought it through and are ready.

Post # 8
6467 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Charlies_Angel:  I say if you feel ready, go for it!! If we were ready, we would totally go for it. I am also 28.

Post # 9
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Stop listening to others and make the decision that is best for you!

Post # 10
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Why are you even telling people whose opinions don’t matter?

Post # 11
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Charlies_Angel:  No one else’s opinion matters. Don’t even discuss it with them.

p.s. Before I clicked the link I expected you to be 20 or 21. No way is 28 too young to start a family, it is an ideal age!

Post # 12
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Charlies_Angel:  You can afford it, you have a plan, you appear to be responsible, consenting adults…

I would go get pregnant!

Post # 13
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I think families – and parents – often incorrectly think you have to be ‘married’ for so long before it’s “calm” and “acceptable” for a baby to come along. I’ll never forget my then-future-mother-in-law telling me we needed to “be married a few years before even thinking about having kids.” The urge to laugh in her face was strong.

You and I have been married about the same length of time and we’ve been trying for 2 months. No one else’s timing matters but yours. I could care less if my mother-in-law, or any other relative, becomes a snarky know-it-all if they discover we’re trying or that I’m pregnant. It’s just not their choice to make.

I say go for it. Though, uh…I might be biased.

And like others are saying, I wouldn’t advise talking to others about your intentions to conceive. Opinions…everybody’s got ’em and most of ’em stink. It also doesn’t help that most folks don’t know how to give advice when it’s solicited; they just give advice whenever and try to force it on you.

Few people will dare speak up when they learn of the situation only when you’re pregnant.

Post # 14
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Charlies_Angel:  Do it now. Most big law firm jobs make it difficult if not stressful to take full maternity leave. It sounds like you and your husband are in a good position to try now. GL!

Post # 15
1634 posts
Bumble bee

Does your family have any legitimate reasons for wanting you to wait? I’m 28 and my family wants me to be pregnant NOW lol. Although they are all happy we’re getting married first. So, why arent they on board? I don’t really understand why they wouldnt be thrilled!

Post # 16
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@Charlies_Angel:  You two are educated with sound professional careers and a home.  If you both feel ready to be parents, I say go for it!

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