Post # 1
So here is the situation. I am 28 years old and DH is almost 30. We own our own home and have been married for four months. DH runs his family’s construction business and makes a good salary. I am an attorney who is currently a judicial law clerk. My mother and several of my aunts keeps saying that we should wait until a year or more to have children. Hubby and I barely want to wait six months. We chose this time because my clerkship is up in July of 2014 and I want to be able to stay at home with the baby for atleast three to six months. Hubby is fine with this and will be the sole provider. I want to have my first child before I start a demanding job at a firm because having the option to take off more than 6 weeks would not be an option. We are really excited about TTC but my family’s opinions are causing me to second guess myself. What do you ladies think? Anyone have similar experience?
Post # 3
You and Hubby are the only ones that can make this decision. There is also no guarentee that you will get pregnant right away it could take a few months or even years to concieve. If you want to start then start!!
Post # 5
I think the timing will never be perfect for a baby, for anyone. If you and DH are ready, then the time is now!
Post # 6
once it happens, your family will be happy. You make the decision that is right for you and your husband, not for anyone else.
Post # 7
It’s you decision, not your family’s. If you both feel ready then go for it. There will always be something or someone telling you to wait and there will never be a perfect time, but it sounds like you’ve really thought it through and are ready.
Post # 8
@Charlies_Angel: I say if you feel ready, go for it!! If we were ready, we would totally go for it. I am also 28.
Post # 9
Stop listening to others and make the decision that is best for you!
Post # 10
Why are you even telling people whose opinions don’t matter?
Post # 11
@Charlies_Angel: No one else’s opinion matters. Don’t even discuss it with them.
p.s. Before I clicked the link I expected you to be 20 or 21. No way is 28 too young to start a family, it is an ideal age!
Post # 12
@Charlies_Angel: You can afford it, you have a plan, you appear to be responsible, consenting adults…
I would go get pregnant!
Post # 13
I think families – and parents – often incorrectly think you have to be ‘married’ for so long before it’s “calm” and “acceptable” for a baby to come along. I’ll never forget my then-future-mother-in-law telling me we needed to “be married a few years before even thinking about having kids.” The urge to laugh in her face was strong.
You and I have been married about the same length of time and we’ve been trying for 2 months. No one else’s timing matters but yours. I could care less if my mother-in-law, or any other relative, becomes a snarky know-it-all if they discover we’re trying or that I’m pregnant. It’s just not their choice to make.
I say go for it. Though, uh…I might be biased.
And like others are saying, I wouldn’t advise talking to others about your intentions to conceive. Opinions…everybody’s got ’em and most of ’em stink. It also doesn’t help that most folks don’t know how to give advice when it’s solicited; they just give advice whenever and try to force it on you.
Few people will dare speak up when they learn of the situation only when you’re pregnant.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Charlies_Angel: Do it now. Most big law firm jobs make it difficult if not stressful to take full maternity leave. It sounds like you and your husband are in a good position to try now. GL!
Post # 15
Does your family have any legitimate reasons for wanting you to wait? I’m 28 and my family wants me to be pregnant NOW lol. Although they are all happy we’re getting married first. So, why arent they on board? I don’t really understand why they wouldnt be thrilled!
Post # 16
@Charlies_Angel: You two are educated with sound professional careers and a home. If you both feel ready to be parents, I say go for it!