(Closed) Everyone on vacation during our wedding.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh man, that stinks. We had this happen to us with a few of our guests because we were having a destination wedding. I noticed your profile says Arizona and Croatia, are you having a destination wedding as well? We ended up doing an at home reception for some of the people who weren’t able to attend. 

Post # 5
7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nicolebug:  Aww that sucks! So sorry to hear that hun!

Post # 6
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Happening to us, too! We also have people who already promised to go to other weddings the same weekend. Darn, June and it’s popularity!

Post # 7
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yikes that sucks….

Post # 9
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@nicolebug:  oh no! Did you send STD’s out?! I’m sorry, I am sure the turnout will be better than you think and your wedding will still be just as amazing if not more!

Post # 10
7653 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Having the SAME problem. We are getting married over 4th of July weekend. Because most people get a long weekend, there are tons of family reunions, vacations, and other weddings going on. I got 5 declines in 1 day and I was so sad. My decline pile was bigger than my accept.

However, I started looking at it as the people that care most and can spare one day to come celebrate with us are our true friends and the ones that we want there. I have been concentrating on the big picture. I am so happy to be spending the day with the people that love me most, and VERY happy to be marrying the man I love so much. My wedding isn’t meant to have a tv studio audience. It should be intimate. You’re only going to stress yourself out over something you can’t change if you continue to think of no one coming. People are coming; the ones that matter and love you.

Good luck.

Post # 11
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It did happen to use with a few of our guests.  We had our wedding over Labor Day weekend, so we knew it was a risk.  We sent Save-The-Date Cards and just hoped that the majority of the people that we expected to come would be able to be there.  A few people surprised us with their declines… But, for the most part, it went as we expected it would 🙂

Post # 13
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nicolebug:  I am so sorry, I would be so mad if we got an RSVP like that. “I’m sorry, we have something better to do” I do have relatives that act the same way and it sucks.

Post # 14
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You just got to stick to your plan. The people who are meant to be there, will be there.  I changed my wedding date twice, to accomodate other people, and in the end, they ended up completely changing their plans anyway, so in the end it didn’t make any difference. So just enjoy your day, and know that the people who made the effort to be there, are really the ones who matter, not the ones who didn’t. 

Post # 16
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Are you having your wedding during a holiday weekend?


I tried to stay away from planning mine over a holiday weekend so that I wouldn’t have to make my guests choose between having their usual holiday plans or coming to my wedding(everyone has to travel for mine). 

But yeah, unfortunately if you plan your wedding on a holiday weekend you really kinda have to expect that while some will love nothing more to attend, others have other plans that they may have planned long before you got engaged.


Like others said, the people who matter the most will be there and that is all that matters.  Think of the money you will save with catering, etc.

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