Post # 1
Now that our immediate family knows that we are expecting, everyone is an expert on what to do and what not to do during pregnancy.
My MIL texted me yesterday “you know you need to take prenatals right? They might make you sick, so try to take them with food.” Really?! I AM taking prenatals. Like I wouldn’t have known if she didn’t mention it.
Then my sister called me and asked if I’m eating enough, and to make sure I eat a variety of different foods.
I know that they are just trying to be helpful and I know they are excited, I can’t help but be a little irked by it. Is everyone else in your life an expert on what you should do now that you’re pregnant?
Post # 2
1112bride: I personally do not have children of my own, but my best friend is currently 7 months pregnant and vents to me all the time about the same thing. I feel for her because she is clearly a responsible individual and would never do anything to jepradize her own health let alone her babies. Her MIL is the worst I guess, always texting her and checking up on her. At the same time, being an outside party listening, it is kind of sweet that they are so concerned and you can tell they are all very excited, especailly because this is the families first grandchild. But I completely agree with you, they should really chill out and stop micromanaging your pregnancy. CONGRATS!
Post # 3
Just wait until baby arrives!!! I think this is one of those unfortunate things that is going to happen regardless. My advice is to get good at nodding, smiling and letting it all go in one ear and out the other!
Post # 4
At least they aren’t telling you horror stories of births that happened to a “friend of theirs”. :/ That happened to a very sensitive friend of mine. It was pretty unfortunate because she was a super-anxious pregnant woman to begin with.
Post # 5
1112bride: I’m probably going ot be right there with you in a few weeks. So far we’re holding off on family till 12 weeks and I know they will be the most “outspoken” lol. The only 2 who know right now that have kids are my best friend and my cousin….so far its been fine except my cousin is bit more on the “advise” part….I told her I bought a pregnancy book and she went on a rant about making sure I dont read too many and this and that because it only scares you etc….
Post # 6
1112bride: Oh dear…you have many more months ahead of you to deal with this. Probably years becuase it doesn’t stop once the baby is born. I actually find its worse for me now than when I was pregnant. For instance, apparently I’m making my baby freeze to death by not wrapping him in a blanket all the time. I get it from everyone :”You should have him in a blanket.” Trust me, I tried to hold him in a blanket, and he sweats. He runs very warm like me. But people continue and will continue to tell me to cover him up, and I just tell them to please not cover him. We know what’s best for our babies, and that’s all that matters.
Post # 7
megz06: LOL I can imagine how much unwanted advice I’ll get after the baby is born. My sisters MIL insists that her baby ALWAYS wears socks even if its 90 degrees outside because apparently germs go through your feet!
Post # 8
1112bride: ugh yes. I had some random man at the office tell my co-worker to “not to let me lift anything” And “keep an eye on me”. Because I’m irresponsible and need to be watched lest I try to do something stupid. The worst ones are the people that act as if you wouldn’t have thought of something if they hadn’t mentioned it. Stop trying to teach me things! This is usually paired with a veiled probing question, such as “have you thought about breastfeeding?”. Gee- WHA? Babies EAT?
Post # 9
I’m pregnant with my first and I’m dealing with the exact same issue. Two of my closest friends and my grandmothers are the worst at this time. <br /><br />For example my two friends have never even had children yet and telling me crap about pregnancy. Such as “You don’t have cramps it’s in your head” and “Everyone knows your hair doesnt fall out at all when pregnant so somethings wrong if yours is still coming out” and it’s driving me bloody crazy. I’ve started pulling people up on it , don’t know if this helps you but your not alone 🙂 x