Everything I planned for my wedding has seemed to go out the window.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5773 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

On the catering, $2000 for buffet dinner for 150 people is a very very low price so you may need to reset your expectations. You’re not likely to get a very complex or upscale menu at that price. You can’t even buy upscale food for 150 people at Costco for that price. So, you have to decide if you’re satisfied with what’s being offered or if you’re willing to go into a higher price range.

if the DJ didn’t know the ceremony was outside when you booked, then I can see him being reluctant to set up his gear out there. It’s a lot more work, plus more risk to the gear (and if his gear gets damaged, he can’t work– that’s his bread and butter). If you told him up front, before you signed his contract, that it’s an outside ceremony then you’re totally reasonable to be annoyed!

It sounds like you’re using a variety of semi-professionals and “Friendors” which is a great way to save money, but they tend to be less experienced than the more expensive professionals, so you should probably prepare yourself for more confusion and in general less-than-smooth transactions. 

Post # 4
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Waitingbee57:  These things happen with weddings, ESPECIALLY when you involve family friends- so you’re not off the handle. I made the HORRIBLE mistake of asking a very close friend to do my cake, and while I won’t go into detail, she is no longer making it.

I have a friend bartending as well because it is so much cheaper, but I am ALWAYS worrying that things will fall through.

Though more expensive, the best thing really is to go professional and get a contract with ALL of your vendors! You will get what you promised, or at least legally should, and you will be locked in a price. I don’t worry for a minute about my professional vendors because I took so much time selecting them and reviewing their work.

My advice is to not rush into “deals” or “contracts” until you KNOW that vendor is exactly what you want and they are trustworthy and provide quality products and services. Switching back and forth between people will only create unwanted stress and drama for you.

Best of luck (:

Post # 6
19 posts


You have three big ones to sort out. But remember – It’s your wedding.

Photography – way to important not to get what you want.

Have a heart to heart with her and let her and ask her why the quality of the photo’s you saw were not very good. It’s tricky but go through the ones you liked and let her know that’s the kind of quality you are looking for.

DJ – also very important.

Have you tried to listen to both D.J.s doing another wedding? It can really help you make a decission. You also may want to find out early what else makes the friend D.J. unconfortable. (we had one for my daughters wedding who at the wedding didn’t play any of the choices they had sent to him) It was bad….

Catering –


$13+ per person price is quite low but also depends on the food. 

We just had a wedding for 100 – really shopped around but went with a caterer we have used in the past.—- We had for cocktail hour:

Oyster Roast, spring rolls and shrimp and grits served in martini glasses. Cocktail hour was outside.

The dinner was a buffet with a pork loin roast and carving table. Chicken madallians, Gravy mashed potatoes, dirty rice, mixed vegtables in season, hush puppies with honey butter and mac and cheese. Two salad stations,

He provided the plates, charger for the table settings, cloth napkins, sliver and all glasswear for tables and bar.

Water and iced tea stations.

We had a seperate bar….

Anyway – he charged $22 per person and that did include tip and tax.

We did get other estimates from $25 – $50 per person so we did really well.

Keep looking and get the best for you. Ask to taste some of the food.


Keep looking and make sure your comfortable with the folks you hire.

Best of luck!

Post # 7
1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Waitingbee57: We had a lot of Friendors for our wedding.

DJ: My friend’s dad (people still go on about him)
Photography: Really good friend starting out after uni was over (I’m in love with our photos)
Videography: My husband’s cousin used her video camera
Cake: My step-sister in law’s aunt made it (absolutely beautiful)
Cupcakes: My aunt (again, beautiful)

It sounds like it might be worth switching to pro for a few things. Fingers crossed it all goes well for you. October weddings rock! 😉 

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