(Closed) Everything I want (I want everything)!! Why oh why??

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: Did U come across something U HAD 2 have even though it was not in the budget &/Or wedding related?
    I know exactly what you mean! (Tell me what distracted you or what you purchased ) : (12 votes)
    40 %
    I know exactly what you mean, but I said no...(tell me HOW did you ever say no!) : (12 votes)
    40 %
    No, I was totally focused... No stray purchases for me!! : (6 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
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    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Yup. I’m on a 6k budget, and I keep coming up with things that I love.

    First there was the BHLDN dress that was 3x my dress budget. I went and tried a bunch of dresses that were in my budget, and had to clean FI’s jaw off the floor after I found the perfect one – for half my budget. So happy I didn’t rush into the decision and spend a ton of money!

    I totally HAD to have a rose petal aisle, but just couldn’t justify the $150+ expense for something I’d stand on for 20 minutes. So we decided to skip it and have flower pots instead that we were going to get for the yard anyways. It took me a few days to get over it, but now I’m excited about making flower pots with purple pansies and herbs from our garden.

    Then there were the shoes. I crushed on Kate Spade shoes. Did the same thing wtih my dress, and found a gorgeous pair for a third of the price.

    If you’re on a budget, I strongly recommend being very clear on your priorities, and then just take a few days before buying once you something gorgeous and above your budget. That said… I also recommend splurging on SOMETHING pretty for yourself. Just spend some time choosing what that will be!

    Post # 4
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I know its hard – but if you don’t know it exsists, then you don’t know what your missing 🙂

    We were saving for our huge downpayment for our house, while paying for the wedding – so I had to resist major personal temtations (i.e. no new clothes or shoes other then a RD dress & wedding shoes for about 7 months! And this is HARD for me!)

    I will say picking an outdoor venue will allow you to have very simple decor b/c your backdrop (i.e. your venue) is gorgeous on its own – this is one main reason that I choose to get married at a venue similar to yours.

    So lastly – just don’t look – don’t go to the mall, don’t browse online shopping sites. If you need to buy one item look only at that item (for example, if you know you are shopping for wedding earings, don’t wander over to the shoe site or the shoe dept.)

    You can do this!!

    Post # 5
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    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I just spent $100 on a brooch and comb from etsy.com. This is in addition to the $100+ dollars I am spending on beads to make my necklace. I also spent over $100 on yarn to knit myself a bolero to go along with my dress. Oh – and $125 sandals. At this rate my accessories are going to cost me more than my dress!!

    Post # 6
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    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    There were many things that were not in budget. I mean it’s your one and only wedding day and you want it to be perfect. If you sit down and write out a budget it might be easier to stick to.

    Post # 7
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Oh, yes.  I tease my FI about him knowing he’s marrying a “magpie”.  (Very popular term used for people who like to collect shiny stuff… in my area, anyway.)

    If it’s shiny, I tend to gravitate towards it, lol.  I’ve also been called “flighty” and, yeah, I am like a butterfly, flittering from one flower to the next… 😉

    HOWEVER, I also know that certain things just are NOT gonna work for our wedding and whether or not it’s affordable.

    Here’s what I suggest:  Ask yourself if will fit in with the wedding.  Then ask if it can be used again after the wedding.  Then ask if it’s worth x-amount of dollars.  Then ask if it’s something you could get elsewhere CHEAPER.  THEN ask if you really, absolutely positively NEED it.

    Usually, the first question will nix over half the stuff for me.  Then what’s left, the second will nix another half.  Usually by then I’ll be asking my FI and he asks the rest, lol.  If the answers all point towards getting it, I’ll give it a day or so to mull over THEN decide to get it or not.

    Post # 8
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Oh sweet Bat Man, yes.
    We are on a budget (5k) as well as budgeting for home repairs, but there are so many nice thiiiiiiiiiiiiings that my inner materialism wants to buy.

    Damn summer lines with cute dresses and sparkly things *grumble grumble*

    Post # 9
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    659 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    we don’t have a budget! lol

    we’ve been engaged for 1 year and 6 months and finally tying the knot at the end of this month.

    so our budget was 5k… because we didn’t know that parents would help.. then i decided that that was so unrealistic because a good photographer alone starts at 3k. so we uped it at 10k. i already knew where we were gonna get married because i fell in love with it when i first went there in 2007.  very expensive place. my parents said they would pay for the reception. originally we were only going to have 50 people… but we couldn’t cut people so it’s at 75 and that’s 10k in food for the place. lol so we uped it to 18k… to accomodate the vendors… needless to say, we are now over 30k!!! and we have about 5k in payments to pay and don’t know how we’re gonna do that  since we haven’t really been saving… for what we budgeted, our parents were gonna cover the whole wedding… but all the extra stuff we’ve been getting/doing… is making us cough up money now.

    Post # 10
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    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    my TTD session was something i HAD to do and was not planned in the budget!  absolutely no regrets and worth every penny!  

    Post # 12
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    28 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Yay! I love seeing an Ann Arbor venue on here!  Cobblestone Farms is awesome!  How are you planning on decorating the place?

     

    Post # 14
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    3142 posts
    Sugar bee

    Professional Photography is mine.

    I was planning on just having two guests, one who is a photographer affectionato with a decent camera and the other is a professional photographer for the Army (hardly the same as weddings! lol) take our photos and hope for the best.

    Now I wish I could afford someone at least for the ceremony and some after photos but they are all over a grand.

     

    Post # 15
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    217 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    it was easy for me to part with a lot of the little things and focus on the bigger ticket items- I knew I wanted to spend my money on venue, food, photos, other things had to just get cut!

    Post # 16
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    921 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yes.. there are plenty of things that I just have to have.. and thats why we are a few grand over budget atm 🙁 Damn you shopping addiction!

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