Post # 1
So many decision to be made and it feels like i don’t have enough time even though the weddings not until next year in Sept. I know it’s my day but i can’t help but thaink about everbodies else needs. How do i find a common ground between my wants and everbodies else with out hurting anyones feelings?
Post # 3
I actually had similar feelings while planning. DH suggested that I keep a list of everyone’s requests. So I started writing them all down, then when it came time to make decisions, I did a little bit of secret compromising. For instance my mother had 4 requests, I agreed to 2 of them. DH’s mom had 2 requests, and I gave her 1 of them. It made it easier for me that they did get some of what they wanted, but that DH and I were still happy.
Post # 4
@Newbride2b2012: First off, get a binder or folder of some sort to keep up with receipts, lists, etc.
Then start with a checklist from the wedding websites like theknot.com. That’ll help you out to start with.
Also… it’s YOUR wedding and YOUR FI’s wedding. Start with what YOU TWO want and make a list. As detailed as possible. From what is most important to least important, to colors and themes to who you want doing what.
If you or your FI have EVER hosted a party, then you know the basic needs: food, drinks, places to sit.
You also need to consider the fact that if you start listening and doing what “everybody” wants/requests, then it will NEVER end and you’ll end up overwhelmed with a wedding that isn’t true to you or your FI.
Let them plan the showers and parties. They can do whatever THEY want with those, but the wedding is for you and your husband-to-be first and guests second.
Unless your parents are paying, then you’re pretty much stuck with whatever THEY want…. 🙂
good luck and take your time and BREATHE!!!! 😉
Post # 5
I compromised on food and venue but that was also because the venue we originally wanted was going to end up being more expensive and take a load of organising. We’ve had a number of heated disussions beacuse my parents didn’t agree with my choices. Even though we’re only 5 weeks away I’m still getting over-whelmed by my parents mainly. I like mwitter80’s advice.
Post # 6
I totally agree…wedding planning is not fun IMO because of all the things you have plan for! I agree with Ryna‘s advice…a wedding folder is extremely helpful. But you do have a lot of time before your wedding…don’t worry, you’ll get everything done!
Post # 7
@Zinzerena: That was also some of the best advice anyone gave me when I started planning! Get a big binder and some clear plastic sleeves and keep everything in one place!
I used the weddingwire checklist, but websites like theknot.com also have good ones. It will help you keep track of when you need to start booking each kind of vendor and help you think of things you might not otherwise have considered.
You can also research vendors online and read reviews, which is really helpful! You have plenty of time, take it one thing at a time, and talk to your family to find a balance you can all be happy with.
We started by making a list of our top few priorities and deciding what was less important to us. We met with both sets of parents and they told us what was important to them, and how much (if anything) they would contribute. We worked out most of the details from there.
It can be stressful, but it should be fun too! Don’t get too overwhelmed by all the details. Good luck!
Post # 8
I agree with the PPs. I am a HUGE stress freak. I stress everything out. That being said, when I started wedding planning. I printed a checklist, a vendor list form, and began to work on the aspects I felt were most important in our wedding.
Every month I told myself I would tackle certain tasks and make sure they were realistic. Also what helped me was that wedding wire has a mobile app for Android to dowload and it gives you the ability to see the checklist to check things off, budget to record your payments and due dates, vendors and how many days are left.
This made everything so much easier. I have almost 3 months left and not a stress in the world. Just to shed a couple of more pounds.
Deep breaths girlie!
Post # 9
Thanks for all the advices girls. I do have a weeding planning folder and i have the mobile phone checklist app also. i guess i just need to remember that its FI and we are the people that needed to b please first than meet everyone else needs second.
Post # 10
@Newbride2b2012: that’s what the Bee is here for! 🙂 Not to mention the venting and ranting and pleading for someone to just shoot them for going off the deep end (figuratively, NOT literally!!!) 😉
Check out the DIY section for ideas and tutorials. there’s lots of really great ideas there and in the gallery, too.
good luck and above all eles, have fun!!!!
Thanks to the other ladies for their compliments!!!! 🙂