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My friend, who is not even dating anyone just had a status on facebook that said "anything under 2 carats is uncivilized"... what does that even mean? I think its rude cuz I love my ring but its not 2 carats. I think people get really worked up about the size of the ring, as if that indicates how much he loves you, or like you're of a higher class because he spent more money. Why did society do that to these women? Lol, tragic.
she sounds like the jealous type! but perhaps it's a quote from somewhere and she thought it was funny? just to give her the benefit of the doubt... but yeah, it's a pretty obnoxious thing to say in my opinion. she sounds suspiciously like a girl i know... always trying to minimize other people's lives so she can feel good about hers...
And even if she does know how much it costs...she probably doesn't know what it's really worth...like a down payment on a house or a new car!
Right? I'm sure she wasn't trying to be blatantly rude but hello, be cognizant of others dummy, haha.
Well, everyone has a right to their opinion. Hopefully she finds a man who agrees with her.
Even if it was inadvertent, it was a pretty obnoxious thing to say! I'm so much happier with a ring we could afford, that has a beautiful cut and colour, that looks good on my hand and doesn't interfere with my lifestyle.
Unbeliavle! Some people are just rude!
And it doesn't matter what your ring is - be it .5 carats or 500 caras- people should not judge! It's so lame.
oh dear... i don't think she intended to be rude to you, although i'd be a little shocked at such a statement too.
maybe she's reading/watching too many chick novels/films and she's living in doo-doo land!
My (single) friend had a status up the other day that said "The rate of marriages that end in divorce just went up to 60% hahahahahahahahaha" I didn't say anything to her, but it really bothered me. It must have bothered other people too, because she put up a status shortly after that said, "I apologize for my last status update." I was not amused.
When I got engaged I met a friend of my fiance's. His wife actually stuck her finger out next to my finger and tried to guess the carats of my ring based on their comparative sizes.
rude. but not the worst I've seen posted on Facebook lol Someone I know wrote as her status
"Happy couples still never cease to make me want to vomit."
I was kind of offended even though it wasn't directed at me.
i don't know the girl, but it sounds kind of joke-y to me... i feel like i would post that in quotation marks if i overheard someone say it, but i think that my friends would know that i didn't mean it, since i post a lot of quotations. maybe give her the benefit of the doubt.
Didn't Dear Abby or Ann Landers used to say that a man is supposed to buy a woman a 2 carat ring? Maybe I'm remembering that wrong but I used to read those columns all the time and I swear one of them said that. It was supposed to be a symbol of commitment.
For the record though, I don't think that you need a 2 carat ring just to prove your love or something like that. My ring is smaller than that, it's all we could afford at the time.
I ignore half the stuff I see on facebook updates. It surprises me to see stuff there that these people would never say to me in person ... you almost find out more about your friends this way.
Right after I posted my wedding pictures a girl from high school posted "I cannot even begin to fathom why someone my age (we're 24) would consider getting married... vomit." Ummmm.
I was really tempted to write "I see not much has changed since high school. I hope you find the person you are meant to be with at the time you are ready to be with him. I'm so glad I did."
But I just let it go. I hate to say anyone who says mean things is jealous. But, in this case, they are. Just passive aggressive lashing out on facebook of all places. You love your ring, you love your guy. What's there NOT to be jealous of?
I could see myself putting something like that in my status as a joke, to be honest ... so maybe that's where it was coming from? A reference to a book or movie?
If not - well, now we know why she doesn't have that ring, don't we?
Meh kinda rude, but was it meant just for you? Or a general rant? People are pretty retarded in general, ESPECIALLY with facebook statuses =]
I hope she finds someone to support her "civilized" taste. Let us know if she ends up marrying a fast food worker or something equally ironic =]
I have way too many facebook friends like that. I also unfortunately have the opposite sort- the ones who post things like "I feel sorry for people who need 2 carats to prove their love."
Any kind of snide comments about someone who has a different opinion are irritating. Why can't everyone just get along?!
People that love that a man feels for a woman based on the size of her diamond are pretty shallow. I'm not saying that women with big rings aren't loved, but mine is less than a carat and I know my FI loves me more than anything. We just chose not to buy more of a ring than we could afford. We're practical people at heart.
It wasn't directed at me but I know for sure I can't be the only one saying wth? People are pretty strange when it comes to facebook status'... what's that about?
Reminds me of an article I read, it sums up a sad majority of the facebook friends I have....
http://www.cnn.com/2009/TECH/08/20/annoying.facebook.updaters/index.html
Let me know if it doesn't work!
"anything under 2 carats is what most people get" :)
It's a ridiculous comment. Sure she's entitled to her opinion, but her opinion is judging others' choices. It was rude.
Marigold, exactly! When my mom and dad got married it was uncommon to even get a ring that is over 2 carats. Even if you had money, it wasn't something people did.
In a class a woman who is probably around my mother age said to me ... "Wow, I got married in the wrong decade." Which pretty much sums up what is going on now.
It's as if the size is all the matters. Which I think is sad ... I wouldn't have knows these thoughts until I fell in love and got engaged though! My ring is so special to me that I cannot imagine not having it ...
When fiance joked with me about upgrading it got me thinking about my mom and how my dad upgraded her and how I understand why her original ring is so important to her. =)
I think people equate facebook with "say whatever you want even if it's really stupid and rude"
There was one girl who always lamented about how sad she was, depressed, how she had no friends, etc. boy it got annoying =]. I try to keep my facebook statuses totally NOT personal!
Yeah that's not classy at all! There are so many rings that are beautiful under 2 carats, even 1 carat! Watch just cause she said that, she'll be the one to get something a lot smaller than 1 carat (not that thats bad)...she just JINXED herself!
Not to sound mean, but obviously it's the single girls who are posting these offensive comments about ring size and divorce rates.
Wait until they are in our shoes, they'll be singing a different tune! And probably getting angry at comments like the ones they used to make!
She's probably the type that wouldn't care if her two carat ring is the most flawed diamond on the planet - as long as it's big! Ick - I'd take an amazing small diamond any day over a huge, ugly one.
Actually, my e-ring is a sapphire and I'm ELATED with it!
Ok I have a confession: I totally say (like acutally say, not facebook) things about people who get married young (like younger than 25) and get married quickly and whose rings are too big or whatever. That is mean. I apologize. I do say stupid things from time to time. I hope everyone can forgive me, and forgive people's stupid facebook status.
My guess is she honestly doesn't know what that costs. Pre-ring shopping my bf used to make comments all, the, TIME about how 2 cts was the MINIMUM acceptable size and he'd want to get something bigger.
I would always just laugh and tell him he's crazy.
Fast forward until after he started ring shopping.
me: Hey hun I was out shopping with Kathryn today and she tried on a 2ct ring
him: oh yea?
me: yea... she fell in love. (her bf) is in TROUBLE when it gets to proposing time
him: ummm does she KNOW that costs like 25K?! Crazy!
heh. Here's to reality checks... :)
And just because the rock is big, that doesn't mean it will look good on your hand or will even be a pretty ring. After a certain point they just look gaudy or cartoonish. Quality over quantity.
I agree with the PP. I know someone who has a 2.3 carat ring but it looks like a jolly rancher - not brilliant or sparkly at all, just flat and dull. Her FI also took at a ridiculous loan to buy it. Honestly, if I had a snarky response to the original one in this post, it would be, "Having to make payments on your own engagement ring for years is uncivilized."
Ah, money. Always gets people (including myself) riled up!
That's ridiculous. It's always the single girl who looks like she just rolled off the back of a truck that expects Brad Pitt & a 3ct diamond. I know someone like this... she always tries to get her digs in where she can because she is miserable with her own life.
Some people need to get a grip!
How rude?! Clearly she's unhappy with her single status since she is so focused (already) on the ring. SMH.
My bf and I just had a ring talk and it made me really relieved because as much as I would like an awesome ring, it's just not in the cards right now with both of us shedding jobs and going back to school!
Both of my college roommates required a 2 carat or more stone. We always joked around about it, but they had serious requirements for their BF's. They both got their rocks.
I think the FB comment was a bit insensitive, because anyone who pays attention to diamond size must certainly know that most of the population does not wear diamonds that big.
It's amazing how much value and self-worth is put into the diamond size. Personally, I'd prefer a happy marriage over a big rock, if I had to choose.
I see that you are from NYC. Me too - well in live in Jersey but grew up and work in NYC and I have heard that dumb 2 carat comment a lot - but always from single girls, mind you.
For the record my e-ring is not 2 carats and its a sapphire which I chose myself. No one says anything but nice things to my face - except my best friend who wants an 8 carat emerald - and she was just bummed that it wasn't an emerald!
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