- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Just let things flow naturally, don’t expect too much. Just yesterday I got back in contact with an old friend after 2 years and even though there is so much I want to say, I don’t. Just keep the conversation short and casual and let nature run it’s course. I will say since you are getting married be careful not to rush into a false friendship out of comfort.
I recently rekindled a friendship that was also ended over something petty in high school…Honestly the first day that we decided to hang out again all we did was talk about what was new with us. We didn’t talk about the past or anything like that and just had fun. A few times after that we sort of brought it up and talked about how stupid it was and then moved on. She probably feels the same way you do, and I understand being nervous but honestly there’s nothing to worry about! I suggest you do what I did and just have fun for awhile before bringing anything up. You will probably notice that she is different in some ways because people grow and mature over the years, but you will notice that your relationship is still the same 🙂
Just see how things go. Good luck!
@eliza_p: ugh I wish I read this before I just sent her a text telling her how good it was to hear from her and how much it meant to me…I wear my emotions on my sleeve, and I also think too much which is a deadly combination…I just miss how things used to be even though I realize it feels unnatural to force it…
@eliza_p: I will say since you are getting married be careful not to rush into a false friendship out of comfort.
OMG YES, great advice. Seriously.
Don’t rush into things. Remember the whole “once burned, twice shy” thing. Forgive, but don’t forget, you know? I must sound cynical, but I have rekindled two friendships over the past year (with ex-best friends) and in both cases, it turns out that I shouldn’t have bothered. Just have a nice time and don’t plan too far ahead (like, say, inviting her to your wedding right away). Good luck!
I think sometimes we get caught up in some petty things but when we really think about it we realize it’s not worth the fight. I like to think of my BFFs as sisters… It’s not a choice but to make up. If she’s important to you, reach out…. She has.
I’m sure it took a lot of guts on her end to reach out to you. There are times when I want to reach out to my ex-best friend but don’t b/c I don’t really know how to act or what to say. We had a petty falling out as well. I’d say just let things flow naturally. Don’t try to force it or get your hopes up too much, but the fact that she cared enough to reach out to you is a big step. Good luck!
can you take the console of your car apart to get her necklace back? that would be a nice “good to see you again” gift.
My best friend and I just rekindled our friendship after not speaking for 2 years. We texted very infrequently for a few months after she initiated contact with me and I didn’t know how to get us to the next stage. She recently had surgery so after getting it okayed I stopped by to bring her and her FI (who I have never met) lunch..and ended up staying for 5 hours. We didn’t talk about anything significant/emotional for a while but eventually we both apologized, forgave each other, and got closure for the past. I am currently helping her plan her wedding, which will be happening at the end of this month!
Good luck. Just go with the flow and don’t try to force anything!
@eliza_p: okay good I know I think I am way overthinking/acting crazy I just felt so caught off guard…she changed her # and it was the same area code as the Slomin’s telemarketer so I totally expected to have my angry “STOP CALLING ME AFTER 9 PM” voice on.
@Juliepants: VERY true, thanks for the advice!!!
@mypinkshoes: The car was a lease and I turned it in a few months after this happened. I called two dealerships at the time and both said they could do nothing.
@Eight6Eleven: I know I am in a state of shock seriously,,,I’d say you should just reach out to your best friend but I’m not sure how this will all turn out yet…
@MrsPom: I like that way of thinking of it but when she defriended me I sent her a long message telling her that I would always be there for her etc. and she responded with a short message not to contact her again…
hey everyone thank you all for the great advice…I am actually going to delete this post because of “paranoia” that she may somehow come across it…it would just make things…well…awkward!! (since the situation is very unique)
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