(Closed) Ex-best friend problems.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

*shrug* become her frenemy?

act nice, but keep her at a distance. don’t get involved in big personal issues. don’t hang out. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mepayne:  I feel your pain. I have two ex-best friends I’ve lost over time. I wish I had them back sometimes, minus those personality issues.

Not to be overly judgemental, but this sounds like a toxic person.

My advice is to simply back away, permanently. Stop adressing any issues involving her. Don’t reply to any communication. It seems this is the type of person that will want you actively in her life if you do forgive and forget. And it sounds like it will create a lot of drama once you get back with her.

Time heals all wounds, including this one.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mepayne:  I could have written this.  Just keep doing what you’re doing.  It took 2 years, but the “friend” I had (who acted similar to this) finally got a clue and stopped contacting me.

Sorry you are going through this!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have a similar situation. I’m just not responding. She doesn’t seem to be taking the hint, but eventually she will. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mepayne:  I understand. I hope you get the relief you need soon. You are a patient person.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I’d keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t relent.

Seems lke you’re worried she may resort to stalking… I’m sorry to hear that, it’s a horrible experience. I’ve had stalkers (yes that’s plural…sigh) and I can say, through trial and error, the best way to get rid of a stalker is to bore them away.

Be very boring, undramatic, and in any communication between you (keep it minimal-to-none), don’t be kind and warm, don’t be cold and mean, just be, absolutely and totally, dull and bland.

 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have had some people in my life that sound like your ex friend. I agree that you should just continue to ignore her. She is like a misbehaving child who feels that bad attention is better than no attention. If you give in to any contact, she will take it and run with it. Don’t talk to mutual friends about her. If they bring it up, change the subject. It’s not worth it.

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