Post # 1
I need a little advice here, I was supposed to be in a friends wedding but recently the bride and I had a falling out and mutually agreed that I should no longer be in or attend the wedding. I’ve already paid for my portion of the bachelorette party weekend trip which I obviously won’t be going on now. I emailed the Maid/Matron of Honor to politely ask to be refunded my share, which she has refused since “it has already been spent”. Am I in the wrong for expecting my money back? Is this an issue I should press?
Post # 2
Yes, press the issue. I would expect my money back ASAP!!
Post # 3
It depends on how the trip was set up. But I would say that it is most likely similar to a deposit which you won’t get back.
Your dropping out, shouldn’t have any financial implications to others. So if you booked based on double occupancy, and now someone has to pay a single supplement then it would be appropriate for you to cover the additional money.
Post # 4
you should get your money back, if the moh wont return it, talk to bride about it…
Post # 5
I think it depends on the logistics. Is your dropping out of the party going to increase the amount that others will have to pay? Did the Maid/Matron of Honor have to pay a deposit? If yes to either or both of these I wouldn’t press the issue.
Post # 6
You absolutely should get your money back.
Post # 7
How much are you talking about? I mean if it’s 100 I would think you just let it go. You aren’t paying for the dress in the wedding. If it’s over 100 i’d ask one more time for my money back…. but what are you going to do? Take them to small claims court to get it back?
Post # 8
I’ve already paid for my dress (170) that I can’t cancel, and the bachelorette was almost 200 for a place that was split between all of the bridesmaids so the remaining bridesmaids would just have to contribute a bit more. I wouldnt be doing small claims court or anything but just wanted some outside opinions as to what the fair thing to do would be. Thanks for y’all’s input!
Post # 9
Hm. I see both sides. On the one hand, you obviously won’t be benefitting from anything purchased with that $200, so in that sense you deserve it back. However, on the other hand, the bachelorette was planned to meet a certain budget. Even if there are 4-5 other girls, that $40 or $50 more per person, and that’s asking a lot.
So, basically, if I were you I’d totally want the money back, but if I were in that wedding party, I wouldn’t want to cough up $50 because you and the bride had a falling out
Post # 10
jamie.dickson.5074: Listen, if this $$ was contingent on being a bridesmaid, the yes you should get it back.
Post # 11
- Wedding: Royal Park Hotel
jamie.dickson.5074: “mutually agreed that I should no longer be in or attend the wedding”
This means the bride AGREED that you will not be attending the wedding which means it is really fucked up that your money is going toward her weekend away. I would talk to the bride. It really sucks but that other tacky ass Maid/Matron of Honor refuses to refund you the money. I mean – unless you slept with the groom or something….it seems like you should be getting your money back.
Post # 12
Yes. Get it back. Its polite to return money. Especially since you guys mutually agreed
Post # 13
I don’t think you are entitled to the money back from the bachelorette. The other bridesmaids have nothing to do with the falling out, and if they have already used the money to book everything, tough luck.
Post # 14
If you both agreed that you shouldn’t be in and aren’t even attending the wedding, then you should absolutely get your money back.
Hopefully you can sell the dress on a resale site or something
Post # 15
jamie.dickson.5074: You can’t return the dress?? That seems odd unless you already got it altered.
Also, totally get your money back. SO RUDE of the Maid/Matron of Honor to not offer. Why should you pay for a trip you aren’t going on?
If they are horrible people and don’t refund you the price you paid…that is your wedding gift! Seriously!