(Closed) ex-bridesmaid….do i invite?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel that not inviting her is truly drawing a line in the sand of where your relationship stands. So whatever you do you need to be completely okay with your desicion because in the future if you get over this hurdle you may need to explain your desicion. I would also consider how large your wedding is going to be. If you have over 100 people I can’t imagine you would even notice her, but it would certainly depend on youtr guest list, and whether you think she would behave badly versus just being standofish. 

Sorry you need to make such a desicion, and good luck!

Post # 4
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with carriejuly, it would really be drawing that line. If I were you I would invite her and her husband, hence putting the ball in their court. Dicuss it with your Fiance and make the decision together, explaining to him how it would be the absolute end of you friendship if you do not invite them- I am sure he will understand. Good luck!!!

Post # 5
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1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I wouldn’t invite her. You don’t need any more drama or awkwardness at your wedding. If your not friends right now I wouldn’t.

I am not about to shell out 100$+ for a couple that I am not even talking to.

Post # 6
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54 posts
Worker bee

@Mya Rose: I personally believe that you guys got into an argument over a whole lot of nothing… which happens sometimes between really good friends. You writing this tells me that you still love her and still want to be friends, so invite her. Have dinner or lunch together before then and catch-up… You never know… you guys may end up laughing and crying together. I say don’t let this one issue ruin your whole friendship…

Post # 8
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mya Rose: I really, truely know how you feel, I have a friend who is also giving me these totaly short and cold reply on everything and I try,try,try. At the moment she is really making me feel like she has written me off as a friend and it is also over nothing. It makes you feel pathetic for even trying, but I am not giving up on my friendship with her, I refuse to. I really feel for you! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mya Rose: The world is reaaaaaly tiny!!! Wow!!!!:)! I do feel like our frienship is becoming one-sided, I mean, I put in all this efford only to feel that she really does not need me in her life, but it a pretty new struggle and I am not ready to give up! That being said, there comes a time when you should probably give up, without blame or guilt, if its a competition and not a friendship, then yes, you might be ready to cut your losses, only you can really answer that! Good luck with this decision!

Post # 12
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54 posts
Worker bee

@Mya Rose: Perhaps…. with this new information maybe you should let her go. I have this particular situation right now where i am more of a friend to this person than she is to me… I have been keeping her at an arm’s length distance that way she cannot hurt me again. If you feel that your life would improve without her presence then do what ya have to do….Cool

Post # 13
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would still invite her.

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