Ex Drama

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@NightOwl27:  I would be tempted to put something on my facebook along the lines of

“Some of you may have heard some nasty rumours or comments about me. I hope that you all take the time to think of me and my character before believing them. Break ups are hard on everyone involved, made harder by the spread of lies”

Post # 4
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Oh my goodness! I would contact the police and ask what they can do in this situation. I don’t know where you live or what the laws are there. Some places will prosecute for phone or Facebook harrassment. Even if this is not possible in your area, you should be able to file an official report. If this escalates, it will be good to have this on record. Also, the police may call him to let him know a report has been filed so he realizes this is dangerous and unacceptable behavior. 

I would not respond on Facebook. That is just participating in his game and could be seen as inciting an argument. 

 

 

Post # 5
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@NightOwl27:  I don’t think you should respond in any way. You’d just be fanning the flames and making things worse. Just focus on yourself and the great new guy you have in your life. The only opinions that should matter are yours and his.

Also, real friends wouldn’t believe his crap to begin with, and anyone who does is not worth worrying about.

Post # 7
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1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

I would get a restraining order. Sounds like you are within your rights to do so as he is starting to harass you. Call the police, they should know how to do that.

Post # 8
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7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@ksus07:  +1

Also if a virtual stranger (your landlord) thought he came off as a douche, I am pretty sure everyone else will as well.

Post # 9
Member
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@NightOwl27:  Oh sorry my impression was that you were worried about people believing it. Just keep in mind he’s doing it out of jealousy and spite, he’s showing his true colours while the man your with now is being supportive. He’s not worth the time even thinking about.

Post # 10
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162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh jeez, I have been going through the same type of crap on and off for the last three years with my ex and his current wife. Ugh, I AM SO SORRY!!!!!! 

Document everything…that’s what I’ve been doing, let the authorities know, they will probably say you cannot do much because he is threatening you and he has not physically hurt you, but make them aware.  I could not get a R.O. since his wife hasn’t physically hurt me and technically her comments on facebook and pinterest aren’t enough for one but every state is different. 

Do not react or respond to any of his comments, he’ll get more out of that than if you just ignore him. 

Not to scare you but I’d keep my guard up if I were you. From the advise the bees have been giving me, you are better safe than sorry. 

Post # 11
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1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Sounds similar to FI and his ex, except there was no landlord situation. We started seeing eachother about 2 months after they broke up, and she started telling everyone that he was cheating on her. She said they were still seeing eachother at the time. ugh. We lost a lot of friends because of this drama

 

I hope you figure things out

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