Post # 1
This is why social media sucks sometimes!
Long story short – I got married at 22, knew before the wedding that it was a mistake, but I was too young and dumb to do anything about it. I stayed in the marriage for almost 3 years and the last 2 years I really felt like I was single, the marriage had been long over in my head. I finally got the guts to leave him after finding out he got a vasectomy behind my back and cheated on me with random girls online, it was the push I needed to get out. After I left I felt the most amazing sense of calm and relief and have never looked back and I 100% know that leaving him was the absolute best thing I have ever done. He tried to make the split difficult (refusing to sell the house, not making payments, trying to steal the dogs), but in the end it was a pretty easy divorce, no kids, no real joint anything other than the house. I haven’t heard from him in a long time, I don’t know where he lives or what he’s up to and I want things that way.
I met my now husband about 10 months after leaving my ex.
Anyway, when I left him, he set up a Facebook account and added as many of my friends and family members as he could. A bunch of them have since unfriended him (I blocked him right away) but I’m finding out that some of them still have him on there… Because, yesterday morning I woke up to messages that he had gone on a rant about me on his Facebook for everyone to see. I guess he had found out that I just got married and it must have ticked him off. Here’s what he put:
“So my b***h ex wife just got married. Stupid c**t wouldn’t take my last name but his was good enough for her. F*****g b***h c**t didn’t have the balls to be single for long before jumping into marriage with some other f****r. I wish them a long life together. Of hell and misery stupid b***h face c**t”
It’s laughable that he feels this bitter after this long. But, I really, really wish that he would cut ties with everyone who has anything to do with me.
Post # 3
That is kind of scary! When was your divorce?
Post # 4
@Fluffmallow: I left him around 4 years ago and filed for divorce immediately.
Post # 5
@orchidaloha: lol I would honestly just have laughed at that. I think it’s rather crappy though that anyone you know would still have him as a friend on fb after he spoke about you like that. If it was my family I would have a major issue with that. I mean I guess they can feel free to friend who they want, but I would be deleting them until they were no longer friends with this toxic person. It would be one thing if hejust existed and they were fb friends but if he’s specifically speaking so harshly about you I wouldn’t be ok with my family still having that tie to him.
Post # 6
He sounds like a real gem. I wouldn’t worry about it, the only person he makes look bad with that is himself.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Wow. Well at least everyone who had doubts now knows for sure why you divorced him. What a d*ck.
Post # 8
@stardustintheeyes: oh, I for sure laughed about it! Then I temporarily unblocked him to see who he is still friends with. I’m now in the process of asking them to either unfriend him or remove anything that has to do with me from their FB. Sucks but I just don’t want any connections there at all
Post # 10
Wow, if you were 100% sure that leaving him was right before, now you know it was 110% right
Post # 11
Haha classy. That would have made me laugh. You really hit a nerve, huh? I’d feel kind of flattered that I made such an impact to be the subject of a rant 4 years later 😉
Post # 12
@mrsmay07: No kidding!
@adoc86: haha that’s what my husband said
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Post # 14
@orchidaloha: What’s really troubling is that your loved ones felt the need to text you and tell you what he said. I wouldn’t have said anything. Why would anyone? It’s not like he’s a threat to you since he doesn’t even know where you live.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@orchidaloha: Well, he’s got a vast vocabulary. That is enough for me to know that he’s a dumb ass, and not worth any of your time.
Post # 16
@orchidaloha: holy crap what a psycho! I think it’s kind of hilarious that not only is he clearly stalking you, he didn’t mind sharing with all of FB that he is! Yikes! Glad you moved on!