Ex-Friend Wants To Sue For previously gifted save the date cards

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2893 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

At best, this is a small claims case.   There are merrits on either side.  Do you have any e-mails form when you were working the STDs?  Did the picture he used and altered belong to you (i.e. did you take it or own the copy right to it)?   How long ago was this created from the date that he billed you? 

In small claims, it’s unlikley to get thrown out right away, but one or both of you will be stuck with court costs. 

Also, the part that is against both of you is that there is no contract.  Even with friendors, get a contract.

Post # 6
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@anonanonanonbee:  Aw, I remember leafing through your original post about this, I think you are getting yourself worked up over nothing!  I’d probably do the same so really I don’t mean this badly!  1.) Has no real case, you have quite obvious documentation this was a favor 2.) Even if you didn’t have the former, there is no contract to substantiate his claim, 3.) I doubt this will ever come to any real fruition.

 He sounds like a difficult, emotionally driven human who’s just lashing out.  I’d remain no contact and do my best to put it out of my mind.  

Post # 8
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@anonanonanonbee:  Yikes, he sounds unstable.  This would be replaying over in my brain too even when I tried to ignore it, so I know it’s not the most helpful advice.  I think you’re doing all you can though, not engaging is key.  He’s trying so hard to engage you in a fight, his life must be awful rough if this is his usual.  If it continues, you might consider filing harassment charges.  I’d probably just keep blocking until he got the message though, it might take awhile, ugh.

Post # 9
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@anonanonanonbee:  I certainly wouldn’t pay him.  Let him take it to small claims court if he wants to, but it doesn’t sound like he has much of a case.  I’m glad you removed him from your life, he sounds like a real loser.

Post # 10
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644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Small claims are quite easy and CHEAP to file but they are really not that involved and I really believe people think by throwing the threat around it will get someone to pay up. Don’t fall for it. You never had a contract and he has nothing to provide that shows you had arrangements for payment.

Post # 11
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@anonanonanonbee:  I would cut off all contact with this guy.  He sounds like he could be dangerous and maybe even turn into a stalker.

Post # 12
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1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@anonanonanonbee:  Why not hit him with harrassment charges then??   If I had to change my email or phone # because someone kept harrassing me for money that they did not deserve or have a contractual right to, I would be filing a police report for harrassment (and possibly extortion).

 

Unless there is a contract in place, he can’t prove anything or demand money from you in court.

 

Keep everything he sends you, a paper trail is often helpful in court.  

 

Post # 13
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1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Keep details of the invoices for random amounts – it weakens his case if he is being completely inconsistent in the amount he is charging you. If he lies and says there was a verbal agreement to pay X amount for the STDs, you can show that he has billed you various different amounts which is hard for him to explain. 

Post # 15
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2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

He is harassing you, this isn’t a vendor you didn’t pay, it is a disgruntled ex friend with no contract at all. I would get him on harassment charges he sounds very unstable. 

Post # 16
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624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I remember this story. This guy is unhinged. He may secretly have a crush on you, too. No sane man begs for “friendship” with a girl in such a demented way. He sounds more like he’s pining for a lost love or something. Anyway, I don’t think he has a case at all.

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