ex-husband's new wife drama.

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t have experience with this personally, but I’m curious as to what the husband does during these outbursts.  Sounds like your sister needs to have a discussion with him and he needs to talk to his wife and get everyone on board for the best interests of the kids.  Maybe she can arrange to not be present during the drop-offs so the new wife doesn’t have a chance to yell in front of the children.  Maybe a mediator could help the three adults come to an agreement?

Post # 4
4367 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If that were me, I would take them to court if the father is doing nothing to mitigate the situation.

Post # 5
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@amandasouthcarolina:  Your sister needs to have a talk with her ex and tell him that the new wife needs to start respecting her. NOW.

The children are going to start resenting the stepmother.

Post # 7
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

What kind of a man lets his new wife talk to the mother of his children that way?  And in FRONT of his own children?

If she’s that much of a psycho and showing her true colors I can’t imagine he’d want to be married to that idiot much longer.  And honestly – that woman is just harming her own relationship with those kids.  Does she honestly think they won’t grow up one day and understand how screwed up that is to do that to their mother?

She’s the one that will have to deal with the kid’s resentment towards her




Post # 9
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Can your sister get those psychotic outbursts recorded? That doesn’t sound like a good enviornment for the kids!

Post # 10
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@skippydarling:  +1

and that woman needs To take a flipping chill pill 

Post # 11
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My dad’s second wife was like this. When I was in the hospital as a kid, she wouldn’t let anyone tell my mom about it–then when I got out, she told my mom and said she didn’t want her to come to the hospital because she was “too fat” and would embarrass everyone. At the same time, she was telling me (6 years old, sobbing, scared) that my mom was too busy and wouldn’t be able to make it to the hospital. I was in the hospital for TWO DAYS.

There were lots of other crazy things, but a lot of it was similar–lying, screaming at my mom in front of me, threatening her to take away the kids, etc. And you can bet the stepmom is doing plenty of other crazy things at home that your sister might not even know about! My stepmom threatened to drown me, etc.

Your sister needs to record everything the stepmother says (and TELL HER she’s being recorded–sometimes that can be enough to stop her) and talk to a family lawyer. Make sure it’s clear this stuff is happening in front of the kids. She can get the custody situation rearranged and possibly a restraining order against this women.

With any luck, the dad and the new wife will get divorced–that’s what happened to me. Honestly, I probably needed therapy afterward, but it’s been so long that I’m doing fine now.

Post # 13
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

If they aren’t doing so already your sister and the kids need to start seeing a councelor. Maybe having her ex and wife attend would help as well.

Post # 16
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@deetroitwhat:  This.  And I would videotape her tirades so the court can see for themselves what is going on.

Edited to add:  My ex lived with a psycho bitch, so I know what she is going through.  The problem I dealt with was the psycho bitch was mistreating my child, while my ex did nothing, and I couldn’t get proof because it was occuring while my child was on her summer visitation with her dad, out of state.  It got so bad, I said “eff it” and refused to let her go on her visit one summer.  It was a nightmare.  And without proof, like video, the court will side with the father.  It’s messed up.


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