Post # 1
I’m so PO’d right now.
Have you ever seen a number come up on your cell and not know the number but they keep calling so you answer? Well I just did that. I knew the # is from the ATL area b/c my FH lived there and his cell has a ATL area code…anyway I answer and it’s an ex. I’ve known him since I was 17 and in college. We didn’t start dating until 2005 and both eventually went our seperate ways and still remained somewhat of friends. (We had a very volitile relationship).
His BFF and I became friends during the time we dated and she told me last year that he ended up going to jail in ATL for driving a car that was loaded with illegal substances…so I guess he’s out now and is trying to reconnect with everyone. Joking he asked if I got married – I reply not yet. He goes on to say why am I doing it and I told him b/c I finally met someone worth marrying. Why did he say when you finally realize you made the wrong decision you know you can always call me up. WTF!!!!!!!!!! I told him I had to get back to work and hung up.
I know that I will not answer any calls from that number from now on but has anyone ever experienced something like this?
Post # 3
Obviously you made the right decision since the x wound up in Jail….. he’s jealous. I would just forget that you ever talked to him and block that number so he can’t call/text you anymore.
Post # 4
Oh yes. Bottom line, he is jealous. you said he is a volatile person, and thats how he handled it. Exes have a way of scraggling back, it sounds to me thats what he is trying to do – he isnt over you. Hes likely hurt that you are getting married, and rather than hiding that, he blurted out the first thing that came to mind, which was hurtful. This answer aside, that is inexcusable. Dont even acknowledge his snarky comment and realize that that comment right there is why he was NOT worth marrying and your FH is. And if that number pops up again, ignore.
something similar did happen to me. He said some hurtful things which REALLY enforced my decision (and he had broken up with me.) I now no longer speak to him at all. He defriended me on FB which, to him, is the ULTIMATE insult. That makes me giggle lol.
Post # 5
IMHO, don’t be angry. Don’t let him get to you because I am sure that he is not losing time over this conversation. He may be jealous, he may be regretting what he has lost (you), he may be pondering what it could have been…who knows? But you being worked up only affects you, not him. This could be just his lame way of letting you know that he misses you or what it could’ve been or whatever. Not to be grossly stereotyping, but we’ve all experienced "men" not being able to communicate whatever it is they are feeling (or not feeling). Leave it at that. 🙂
Post # 6
I had an old friend/aquaintence who I lost touch with because he had been crushing on me for a couple years, and was a little too persistant. A couple months ago he randomly called my work while I was covering for the receptionist’s lunch (for 1 hour!). He recognized my voice just from my "Good Afternoon, insertcompany’sname"and freaked out that I had changed my cell phone number and not given it to him, and that I was engaged and didn’t tell him (I still have NO idea how he found out. we have almost no mutual connections)
He said things like, "you’re making the wrong decision", "You need to invite me to your wedding, I want to congratulate you in person", "how come you never gave me a chance". I was totally thrown off by it and flustered, I didn’t know what to say. After the call I got really angry and wish I’d defended myself more…but now I live 2000 miles away and he doesn’t have my phone number so I think I"m ok!
Post # 7
Don’t let him get to you! He said it b/c he clearly wanted to get under your skin. If you just let it roll off your back, never answer the number again and ride off into the sunset with your FI, THAT will get under HIS skin
Post # 8
Jealous! Lalala! It just means you are awesome and that you’re FI is lucky. And, now you know not to answer the mysterious caller. Good for you!
Post # 9
Ex’s can be so weird sometimes…. calling out of the blue when they know you are happy… I would block his number… there should be a feature on your phone or you can call the cell company and aske them to block it from your device… its one of the most magical inventions ever!
Post # 10
My ex didn’t realize that I was awesome until I was walking out the door. He then told me the HE had made the biggest mistake of his life by screwing up so bad. It nearly killed me. We had been together for 8 years, married for 3. Did it really take that long to realize how awesome I am?
Walk away, and don’t look back.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
Bleck! Block his number and forget about him, you obviously made the right decision breaking up w/ him.
Post # 12
Block him and forget about it. He’s jealous, and he’s obviously a bit dense — he might also have been "getting back at you" for taking a dig at him by insinuating that he wasn’t worth marrying. (Not that he was, or that you shouldn’t have said so, but that might be why he said what he did in return.)
Post # 13
my hubby had an ex from about 10yrs ago phone him at his office last year and accuse him of following her (which he isnt-she lives about 20miles away) and hijacking her email account (which he hasnt).
due to the security nature of his job he was a bit freaked out at the potential outfall if the ex decided to make a big deal out of it, plus he was worried about me so he notified his boss of the accusations for just in case. he said to me later that he wished he defended himself more firmly and told her to **** off but he was in such a huge shock to hear from her after all these years he didnt even remember who she was at first
@jaydee… my 2c is that i reckon the guy was touching base with the past and hoping to find other people havent been having such a great life while hes been in prison – jealousy and all that.
Post # 14
Yes, I have. ! I know how you feel! They get mad when I don’t want to talk, they pull the whole "I miss you" thing, and it just takes a lot ouit of you!