(Closed) EX MIL Wants Wedding Invite?!?!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
717 posts
Busy bee

um what?  i wouldn’t have seen that one coming.  that would be supremely awkward.  if the case was that you had been close and she sympathized with you for being in a bad relationship with her son (highly unlikely, many mothers have skewed perceptions of their clearly abusive children), and now is happy for you – that’s one thing.  but this is just not ok.  why on earth would you want her there and why on earth would she wanna be there?  just ignore it and if she brings it up again, say that you’re having a small, intimate day and that unfortunately cannot invite everyone.

Post # 5
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Man I wouldn’t even justify that with a response. She would just not get a an invitation. But if she persists then I think you could telll her that unfortunately the guest list is set and you are so sad that you can’t invite everyone you might have wanted to be there that day due to size contraints.

Post # 6
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL

I had the exact same issue with my ex’s family…right down to the abusiveness and in my case when it all came out when i left him they  all treated me like I was the one who had done something wrong and he was a saint…and there was no way he would hit a woman…but anyway thats another story…but when I got engaged his sister(who i cant stand) and others were offended and pissed that i didnt invite them…why would I? i told them that and that it would be to awkward and left it at that. you should do the same..just dont send an invite and let it go…

Post # 9
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You can conveniently forget and then if she brings it up, say its going to be a very small wedding?  If she keeps persisting, then you can say straight out that it’s awkward to have your new in laws and your a former in law there in the same room.

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