Ex-Nanny Harrassing our Family – please read

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You didn’t do anything wrong. She sounds like she has issues…I have a neighbor that acts like this but she’s not a nanny…if you are really scared, get a restraining order. Especially if your husband goes out of the country a lot.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I haven’t had experience in this (thankfully) but I suggest changing all locks on your doors in case she made a key. I would also tell her that if she doesn’t stop harassing you then you will go to the police and follow through with that threat if she doesn’t stop. She sounds crazy and I’m glad you got her out of your house.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

You don’t have to pay severance, she worked with you for less than the standard probationary period.record all the texts, inform her you are doing so, and if she does not desist in contacting you you will be going to the police to have here charged with harassment.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Go the authorites, at this point its harrasement. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

bklynbridetobe:  this is good advice. I also second changing your locks. What a nut. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Two words:  Restraining Order.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would go to the police and get a restraining order. She sounds unstable. I would also get some security cameras if possible.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

shakazulu:  Here is what I would do:

1. Change all the locks on your doors and make it a habit to lock the doors when you aren’t entering or exiting the house. You don’t know whether she made a copy or if she could be dangerous. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

2. Document all the messages she sends you. Keep a log somewhere of when she contacts you and what she uses to contact you (ie. Tuesday August 26, 2014 at 3:00 pm via text). Do not delete or get rid of anything she sends you.

3. Inform her that you and your DH have no obligation to pay her severance pay. Also inform her that you are keeping a record of her messages and, should she contact you ever again, you will be informing the police about the situation.

4. Follow through on this promise if she contacts you after that for any reason.

Additional advice:

1. If you are concerned about her attempting to come to the house then maybe you should invest in security cameras.

2. If you don’t have a security system already, then you may want to consider getting one installed.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

shakazulu:  I had read a story, somewhat similar to this a few weeks back. They found a live-in babysitter on Craigslist without doing a background check. The woman was a squatter and refused to leave their house, and with California law, she now had rights to live there. Come to find out, she did this type of stuff all of the time, and was sue happy.

I’m so glad you didn’t allow her to stay. Her living situation is not your problem, and it’s very unprofessional for her to even ask. 

I would save all of her texts, emails, or voicemails and seek to get a restraining order against her. She is harassing you. She sounds like she could be mentally unstable.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

shakazulu:  that is terrifying! I would report it and see if you can get A no contact order.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

File a police report now…have everything documented from the very beginning.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

PPs already gave good advice, but if you’re worried she’ll do this again you should see if she advertises her services online anywhere, such as care.com or sittercity.com.  You can contact the sites to let them know what happened and leave reviews.

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