ex-wife delaying divorce – vent! (long)

posted 7 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

If your Fiance had a child with this woman he owes her support plain and simple.

Post # 4
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow this is a lot to take in. Im so sorry your going through this. Unfortunately I have no legal advice for you, I dont know anything about that type of thing. But I did want to say that it will get better!!! Try and enjoy your engagement. They cant let her deley forever!! 

Post # 5
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Women are the most vengeful creatures God ever created.  She is going to drag this out as long as humanly possible because she knows that it hurts her soon-to-be-ex.  The courts are more interested in her right to a fair process than his right to a speedy process.  They will allow her to drag it out until she either has no money or he has no money or both.  It’s a shame she found out about his engagement, that wasn’t going to go over well.  My sincere sympathies are with you, ex-wives are a major hassle.  The only thing to do is expedite your own side of the process whenever you can and do not communicate directly with her at any point.  If there are any shortcuts, take them.  Good luck!

Post # 6
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is exactly why we made sure his ex wife did not find out about the fact that I am pregnant nor the upcoming wedding when the divorce went through. We had to wait the separation through because even though she committed adultery she refused to “have her name drug through the mud”, then we had to wait out the separation period where she was going to pay for it. Then she decided we had to pay for it. So once we had the money to do so we did. If she knew I was pregnant and we were getting married she would be pulling the same exact crap!!! She threw a hissy fit because we were dating at first, I have known her since they first started dating. He has been one of my best friends since high school so we have known each other for 17 years now. She gave him the car in the divorce and is now regretting that decision and leaving him messages daily to that effect (I am sugarcoating it here). I feel your pain! If she had found out that we were engaged and had a baby on the way we would be in court every other day as well.

How did she find out the two of you were engaged?

Post # 7
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It seems as though you might have seen this coming, given that you’ve been through a divorce yourself. Honestly, I don’t understand being engaged to a man who is still legally married. If the body isn’t even legally cold yet, I would not want to be involved in the drama.

Post # 9
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I wish you could go back in time and not announce your engagement until after the divorce was final.  Since that is not possible, you have to know she is going to drag this out as long as possible… until she runs out of money or finds a new man to think about. 

Post # 10
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@crayfish: I agree.

 I don’t have a ton of sympathy to be honest.  I was the ” ex wife” at a time. Now, I didn’t delay anything but he was very much wanting to rush it so he could get remarried to his mistress. I can kinda see her side and how much pain the situation has caused her.

So, seeing as you knew what you were getting yourself into, the only thing you can do is deal with it day by day until it’s finalized.

Post # 12
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The Ex doesnt want them but damn if anyone else can have them.  MM’s ex took almost three years fighting for things like his frequent flier miles- which dissolved in that time frame. 

But now- Im Mrs MM so there you go– in fact she changed back to her maiden name and I am taking his- so her children will now have MY last name- go figure

Post # 13
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

That’s how it is when you get involved with someone who isn’t 100% free and clear to move on. Hopefully this will be resolved soon so you can all move on, but I don’t blame the ex for going after what she’s legally entitled to…

Post # 14
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

That is why my rules for dating someone were

1. could not have been married before, and certainly not going through a divorce currently

2. no children

3. does not want children

I actually walked away right after meeting guys when I found out they had a kid. No baby mama drama for me!!

Post # 15
2790 posts
Sugar bee

@SoontobeMrsA: I don’t think he’s specifically trying to not pay child support but because they cannot document how he makes money the courts cannot actually force him to pay anything. I most certainly agree that he should assist in paying for his child but I think it will have to be done in a different way rather then automatic debit.

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