- 4 years ago
I am writing because I need some opinions/advice anything. I wrote on here a few weeks ago regarding an exboyfriend who got married. To make a long story short. he was cheating on me, I didnt find out til after we broke up, for months he strung me along and I thought we would get back together. I came to find out he proposed in Oct and got married in April after we had broken up that May before the Oct. So shortly after, during his short engagement/relationship we were intimate, he invited me many places with him, questioned my whereabouts, etc. I was led to believe we would get back together as I wanted to. Back this past Jan/feb he starts saying we will never get back together, Im in love with her but I love you. We still had sex up until 2 weeks prior to his wedding(smh). He kept it hidden from me, never told me details, dates anything but questioned me, continued seeing me here and there but he started saying i was unhappy in our relationship, you throw everything in my face whenever you help me, you dont do things out the kindness of your heart, its just so you can throw it in my face. He eventually blocked my number, but strangely enough would still call me almost everyday.The week of his wedding, he blocks my texts. End of April, he gets married. I spoke to him days later on May 6th, we argued, i was just mean to him in that convo, didnt acknowledge or congratulate him of his marriage. He ended hanging up on me. I tried calling him that nite and the next two days and never heard back so I stopped calling/texting period. After that I was just trying to heal my heart and forget him, cause of course I had no choice. strangely, I ran into him several times on the road but I wouldnt even look at him or say hi.
Now a week ago on fathers day, I happen to look on his fb page and his status reads, im miserable, im getting a divorce, im not in love with her, i dont even like her ways. I was shocked cause he told me he was in love with her but kept seeing me. I told him he was making a mistake by getting married so fast, etc. He didn’t listen. That same evening i get a text from him, “hey stranger, I miss the you so much” i HESITATED, I WASN’T SURE IF i SHOULD REPLY OR WHAT i SHOULD EVEN SAY. hours later, I replied, since it was fathers day, he is a father, I just said happy fathers day, i hope it was nice, he replied, no it was bad. ok i think u get it. short convo and thats it. nothing about him missing me, i didnt say I miss him. I changed the topic. Following evening, I get a text from him, I miss u. I replied I miss him back. So he begins saying, he misses me, we should’ve gotten married and worked it out and moved together. Now its too late. Hes not ok, he wants to see me, he wants to sit down and talk. I responded, “do you think thats a good idea cause your with someone, his response was im leaving, i made a terrible mistake. after he said that, i said fine we can sit and talk.He asked is im seeing someone, i said no cause im not. He also asked if he could coem with me to my drs appoint the following mon, i said sure if you want to. he ended up calling me and we talked of whats going on in our lives and ended the conversation cause I was working and had to get off the phone, he also left of fby saying call me, i will eave it up to you call me if you want, I said you call me anytime and this is my work number. that same day, in the evening time, i attended my nieces talent show. As soon as I walk in her is there and smiles and i walk over and we hugged, he followed me to my seat and sat next to me. he ended up leaving early, he called me that nite, we spoke for a little. He told me he got home and said gn. I ended up texting home are you at your home? he said yes, i said good. (his home meaning his home not hers). that was wed, I don’t know what happen, after that I didnt hear back from him. I didnt want to contact him but I text him this past monday since he offered to come to my drs appoint and gave him the details for that day and asked if hes coming. he said he would. i end up showing up to his house that afternoon so we can go, he tells me sorry he cant go afterall, something came up with his child at school. I was understanding and I left. later that evening, i text him and asked what was all that stuff about that you said the other day, he responds it was all true, i didnt say anything else. we got off the phone, he said he call back, never did. So im confused and upset because I was doing fine almost over him and i gave in by speaking to him thinking he was going to apologize or we would even get back together and he disappears for days after that wed.
Yesterday, i text him and say look, we are not on good terms, i thought you were being sincere the other day but i see it was games, you probably just had had a fight with her, if you see me, keep going. I was nice to you at the school because i thought we were going to sit down and talk but that hasnt happened so what was the point of you mentioning it. his response, huh, he doesn’t understand, i explained a little more and his response was wow and he doesnt want to fight. this was last night. So can anyone give me some insight, thanks. I feel as if he was trying to get me back into his life as friends and string me along just in case he does get divorced, he wants to be friends with me or make sure I dont have a new man. Im sorry this is so long and some typos