(Closed) Excited but scared…

posted 6 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

why don’t you go with him? Is that an option? Maybe start looking ASAP for a position out there?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

DH and I just became long distance this year for his job in the Navy.  He is away for the school part of his job currently, and I am on a contract with my school district so I didn’t have the option to move with him. 

LDR’s work if you make them work.  If you’ve been together for 3 years, distance is, IMO, actually easier because you have a strong base to work from.  It’s tough and some days I absolutely hate it, but ultimately DH and I have grown stronger as a couple, and as individuals.  We have much better communication skills, we’re able to verbalize feelings, and we’ve learned to really pick our battles. 

I feel as a woman that I have become more confident and strong.  I’m not afraid to go get my car fixed and tell them exactly what I want done.  I don’t really have the option not to because DH isn’t here.  I love having the security of my marriage and also having the freedom of being semi-single and making my own routines and schedules.  Sure, I enjoy doing that with DH too, but it’s nice when it’s just me sometimes.

Plus, the anticipation of seeing each other is awesome — being reunited is seriously the BEST feeling in the world and makes saying goodbye easier because I have that to count down to again.  Oh, and I personally think distance is good for your sex life in a way because sex after not being together for a month or so is incredible!  DH and I do a lot of “naughty” things that we might not have had the chance to try had we not been separated.

If you’ll be apart for a year and a half, at least you will be busy with school/clinicals.  That’s key!  Start new routines and habits just for you, like a spin class or volunteering.  Visit him often, and I’m sure he’ll want to come home a lot also.  Skype is a great resource too.

Make a pros/cons list with your SO.  Talk about his feelings too and what he sees being benefits and harships for your relationship.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Heya!

It’s kinda funny you posted this, because I just got a job today where I’ll be away from DH for at least 2 weeks at a time (2 weeks there, 2 weeks home, repeat).  It’ll definitely be strange entering into a LDR when we never ever have.

But I think it really helps to remember that this is just temporary.  Write down a list of all the good things about the job (higher salary, more opportunities, etc.) to look at when you need to.  Surround yourself with pictures of you two together, and remember you’ll definitely cherish the time you get with him even more.  

Soon enough you can relocate to be with him, or maybe he will even get to stay. You never know.  Message me if you wanna talk or vent!  We’ll be some lonely ladies in the next little while, I suppose.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Keep us updated! I hope it works out for the best for both of you! And good luck to him!

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