Excited, nervous – and kind of in disbelief…Advice from the bees, please!

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@codysgirl16:  I would say go for it! I am a musician/singer too and for a time was uncomfortable on stage. With experience, you’ll get more comfortable with it (but the butterflies right before walking out on stage never went away for me). 

If I were in your position, I would wonder if I’d ever regret NOT trying it out. You can always back out later after finding out that it’s truly not for you. You’ll never know if you don’t try. Trust your FI and others who say that you have a great voice – see where it leads you. At least, those are my two cents. Smile

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You’ll never know if you don’t try! This sounds like a wonderful opportunity and I think you should go for it. The awkwardness will go away in time, and who knows, maybe you don’t come off as awkward as you feel!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

You never know unless you try! I say go for it! 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Definitely do it! It sounds like it could be fun!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Of course we’re going to say go for it! It’s easier said than done, I’m sure, but how can anyone not encourage you to take this awesome opportunity? Like PP said, if after trying you decide it’s not for you, you can always stop. And then you’ll never have to live wondering “what if?” I sang in highschool choirs and also did a few duets with a friend at church. And I went to a big ass church, like hundreds of people. I was petrified each time before the duets, though for me personally I would always somehow find a little pocket of calm as soon as I started singing. I can’t understand people who don’t have any stage fright at all. But I’m sure it gets easier!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@codysgirl16:  It will definitely take a little while to figure out how to be comfortable on stage – somewhere in the 10-20 gig range was when I started figuring out how to sit/stand comfortably and how to move without feeling like I was some awkward stick figure with bright lights. Of course, I never mastered all of this 🙂 Haha. Even true professionals say that they still get nervous and things before they go on stage!

Just try to focus on the music and how it makes you feel. Hopefully by doing this, you’ll act as if you were singing just for yourself, in your car or at home. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@codysgirl16:  Adele is not thin and has terrible stage fright and look at her! I’m SURE you’re being harder on yourself than anyone else would be! Maybe you’ll have one stage appearance and be like “what was I so worried about?” I want to hear you sing 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@codysgirl16:  Yes, sorry to be confusing. I used the term gig to include any stage appearance – whether an hour long set or an open mic with one or two songs. It’s just my go to word instead of “perform,” haha.

You can learn stage presence over time, but first you need to be comfortable in your own skin up there! Take baby steps – they will work. 🙂

My FI will do the same thing when I practice – some things he’ll say sound great and others he’ll say need some work. In his eyes, it’s a way of being honest with me and helping me further myself. He wants to give me good critique (even if it’s harder to take) so that it actually helps. He’s just not a fan of just saying “that sounds nice” to everything. The way he explains it – he will only critique things that have potential but have room to grow. If he didn’t think I could improve upon it, he wouldn’t critique it. That took me awhile to understand.

@mu_t:  Adele is a great example of stage fright/not having the “perfect” look as portrayed by the media – but we all still find her so beautiful!

 

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