Post # 1
I’m quite new to the website here but I heard that this was a great place to come if you needed some advice. I just recently got engaged to the most wonderful man who sprung the proposal out of nowhere. We were wonderfully excited for the first few weeks but now it seems that we’ve just gone back to being girlfriend and boyfriend again. Do you know what I mean? It’s like he got the proposal out of the way and now I’m happy and he can continue just doing what he normally did. It’s like there hasn’t been that important shift, or it only lasted for so long. Is it just because he’s a guy and i’m worrying too much?
Post # 3
When exactly did you get engaged?
Post # 4
What were you expecting?
From my own experience, nothing changes. I mean, really, what would you expect to change?
I was living with my husband when he proposed. We were both happy but at the end of the day, what was different? We still slept in the same bed, woke up together, ate dinner together, played video games and watched movies together. It was exactly the same as when we were dating.
When we got married, we had a JoP wedding in our living room. Both sets of parents came out for the ceremony. My husband, his parents & I were playing a card game (Munchkin!) together and we played this up until the JoP came. We had a beautiful ceremony… and after the JoP left, we tore out of our wedding clothes and immediately went back to playing munchkin.
Nothing shifted, nothing was different, nothing was fundamentally magical or somehow better than it was an hour before.
Post # 5
after the intial wow I’m engaged high wears off you are still just like you were before
the feelings you had for each other that led up to the engagement don’t change
a wedding is just a big party to celebrate what you already feel for each other
Post # 6
Unless you do not live with your FI, I am not sure what would change. I can understand if you were waiting until you were engaged to move in together and nothing has happened yet, but my FI and I had already been living together and the only thing different from pre to post is that I have a ring on my finger. We knew before he proposed that we were going to be together and that we were committed, so our relationship hasn’t changed.
Post # 7
Honestly I’m not too sure what I expected to change, maybe that he’d be excited as much as I am? We do live together and I know that nothing should really change now that we’re engaged. We still love each other just as much and have the same feelings as before. I guess I might have been just hopped up on the whole let’s start this wedding planning thing. When it comes down to it I know that we are the same people we always were and that what matters is our love for one another and our commitment. Thanks ladies for the replies though.
Post # 8
When we got engaged the “high” lasted for a few months or so probably? Our engagement happened right before Thanksgiving so it was fun to have some holidays as a newly engaged couple, so I think that altered our experience. It did drop off a bit though. However, once we started planning the wedding it became really exciting again! It has its peaks and valleys in exitment and lulls. After we got our engagement pictures taken it lulled again. We live together also. I think it is natural 🙂 Hope that helps! Everyone is probably different though.
Post # 9
Thanks a bunch MissChelly, that does help. We also got engaged right before the holidays started (Dec 1), so hearing from you about your experience with it helped 🙂 You’re right i’m sure it’s natural to have the peaks and valleys and once we really start getting down to planning I’m sure the excitement will pick up again. Thanks again!