Excited to elope – sad secret means I can't share ideas and planning

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jennathehun:  I told anyone and everyone who would listen to me!  LOL 

We did not feel the need to keep it a secret, so maybe you can sway your H.  You can tell your friends, but he doesn’t have to tell anyone himself. 😛

Post # 4
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We just picked a few family and friends that we know we can trust and shared it with them. Makes the whole planning process much more fun! 😉

Post # 5
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

There’s always us!  Post photos and we can vote or suggest!

Post # 6
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@jennathehun:  If you have a BEST friend, maybe you can share the secret with her?

Or like another PP said, ask us!

I think you SHOULD get a bouquet, for what it’s worth! 😉

Post # 7
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t elope, but I want to wish you a great elopement!!

Now that I look back, I really wish I would have considered the many options we have when getting married. 

Don’t get me wrong, my wedding was absolutely wonderful, my guests were talking about it months and months afterwards… but I guess I just got caught up on shows like Four Weddings and Say Yes to the Dress where the whole traditional wedding seems like the way to go. 

I also remember going to tons of weddings in the past and saying to myself, “I can’t wait for that to be me someday.”

But overall, congrats to your decision girl!  And like one bee said, post away everything you are looking to get in terms of shoes, etc, and we’ll help you out!

Post # 9
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012



What still needs to be decided:


-What to do before and after. Should we have a picnic? Go for dinner somewhere? The ceremony is at 6, and our photographer is around from 4:30 until 8ish


Definitely treat yourselves to a fancy dinner after the photographer leaves.  I think a picnic would be fun too.  H and I went for a hike on our wedding day.



-Shoes: this is driving me crazy. I’d like a pop of color, and a sandal with maybe a very low heel or a flat. It’s a formal dress, and I’d like to have some whimsy. But I also need to be comfortable, we will be going all over.


Post a photo – that will help!




-What my guy should wear: It’s so hot there! Maybe a linen suit? Is that too casual?


A linen suit would be very handsome!



-Do I get my hair done? It’s really pricey, and I would not know where to go to do it. The hotel has a salon, but I don’t love the sample pics on their site


I did my own hair.  But I also paid for a hair trial in my town.  I did NOT look good in an updo.  I also cancelled the hair appointment I had (to do a hike) also because they had NO hair photos at all!




-How do I get a bouquet? do I even need one? I’d like something with succulents because of the tropical setting


Yes, I recommend getting a bouquet.  Mine is sitting in a vase on my nightstand. It dried on its own beautifully even after hauling it 2000 miles back to Utah in the back of the Subaru.  It’s been 9 months now.




Post # 10
3 posts

For my 1st marriage I eloped to Costa Rica. It was amazing! I don’t regret it at all! It really allowed ourselves to be “in the moment”.


We had a very romantic dinner after our ceremony and the hotel we stayed at provided us with a mini wedding cake. The photographers took pictures of our first toast to each other and we cut the cake together. Then they left and we enjoyed our dinner as man and wife together, alone. That would be my suggestion

Shoes – totally use the bees here to help you out!


Hair – I recommend paying the extra money to have it styled. Unless you have amazing hair or are super talented on doing it yourself. For me, I’m not great at styling my hair so having someone come to my hotel room to style it was great. I also had someone do my makeup. My hair & makeup looked great in all the pics. This will make you feel a bit pampered on your wedding day and you wont’ stress about having a bad hair day.


Bouquet – ask the hotel where you are staying if they can arrange to have a bouquet ready for you. Even if it’s a small one, it’ll be nice for you to have. & maybe a boutonniere

for him.


We told our family and friends we were eloping. It caused a lot of hurt feelings because they felt left out. I am not sure if it would have hurt them more to not know and then have us come back married – either way, just remember that the wedding is between you and your future husband. It’s a very personal decision on how you choose to do it.  Congrats!! Sounds like an amazing wedding plan!

Post # 11
6 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

Congratulations.. and I completely understand!!!

On the countdown for us.. less than 3 months to go and I’m dying to tell someone, but also loving that the biggest day for us will just be a secret between the two of us.

Happy to help and hear you out with any decisions / ideas.

We’re talking about options to others without giving away where or when we actually have ours planned (Vanuatu, Sept!). So, my best friend who would have been my brides-man is looking at dresses with me (along with the mothers once the engagement is official).

The one time I have slipped was to the jeweller we bought the engagement ring from… gets it off our chest without actually giving it away !!

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