Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
Not exactly sure what I’m looking for here. Maybe just support, in hopes I’m not absolutely nuts…
We currently have a beautiful 5 month old baby girl. We absolutely love being parents and from the very beginning have said we wanted to have babies close together in age. Our doctor advised us after 6 months we are free to try again so we’ve decided in August we will begin TTC.
So why am I concerned? I am SUPER excited, I cannot wait for dd to have a sibling. As crazy as it sounds, I’m ready to have another baby but I don’t feel ready to be pregnant again. Part of my fear (irrationally so) is of telling my job I’m pregnant again. Although I’ve been with the company for almost 9 years, I was basically promoted at the same time I got pregnant with our first. So by the time I would announce a pregnancy (if we get pregnant right away like we did the first time) I would only have been back from mat leave maybe 9 or 10 months and I would essentially go on mat leave twice in my first two years in this position. Part of me feels it’s silly to worry about that but I feel almost like I will be seen as unprofessional or like I don’t take the job seriously.
I also know it will be a lot of work having two under two but I’m so excited for them to grow up together. I also fear waiting because I know how spoiled our first will be (first grandchild on his side of the family, first granddaughter on mine) I feel the sooner she isn’t our only baby, the better she will adjust to the big change.
Am I crazy for wanting to have another so soon?
Post # 2
Ours will be about 18 months apart. I was a little nervous about my job, but luckily everyone here is really supportive. Most have kids themselves, and everyone is familiar with pumping and pediatric appointments and the inevitable illnesses that happen.
I save all of my PTO, as much as I possibly can, and hopefully will not have any leave without pay for this upcoming maternity leave (I used PTO for 100% of my maternity leave the first time too).
Good luck! I’m not sure how life is with two under two, but I can tell you in the fall!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
mixtaperomance: Not if you’re ready. As for your job, they legally cannot discriminate against you for being pregnant if you’re in the states. However, bear in mind that you may not qualify for FMLA so soon because you have to work enough hours after returning to work to requalify for the leave and it’s generally another year (1,250 hours over the previous 12 months).
Just be prepared for lots of inappropriate comments about having another so soon. I remember more than a few women being asked whether they knew what birth control was when they showed up pregnant with an Irish twin (baby conceived less than a year after giving birth.) Having two under two would terrify me personally but I’m an only child so the thought of more than one child is pretty daunting as it is. Ultimately, you have to do what is best for your family and not worry about what other people think.
Post # 4
I had mad baby fever right after our daughter was born in August. Like you guys, we both knew we wanted another and want them close in age. We were basically ntnp since dd was born. I got my cycles back at 8 months pp and just found out I was pregnant last week 🙂 like DaneLady: ours will be 18 months apart as well. ( basically to the day!)
I also feel bad about the work thing. As I live in Canada, I’m still on mat leave with dD. I’ll go back to work for just over 4 months, get my 600 hours for my next mat leave, then I’ll probably be off again. I feel bad, but I’m not going to hold off and change my family plans because it suits work better.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
Thanks ladies! I’m feeling a lot more comfortable about our choice. I know two under two is gonna be incredibly hard but i cannot wait for them to be toddlers playing together 🙂 i wont change my decision regarding family planning just because of my job but it makes me feel better knowing there are others in the same boat