EXCUSE ME?? Did you really just ask that??

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
100 posts
Blushing bee

@marhealy:  smh….some of the things people say are a reflection of how they feel about themselves. I was told two days ago “show off hot stuff …kids will soon change all that” this was a response to a profile picture of me in a bikini ..I am 36 by the way.

Post # 4
1232 posts
Bumble bee

@marhealy:  sorry to hear that. It sounds ridiculous on her part. I am around your height and weight and could not afford to loose an ounce. I would be a skeleton! 

Post # 5
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013


She sounds like a gem. I would have just laughed at her and told her to fuck off.

Post # 6
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well since you are petite, and i no way in need of a diet plan; she’s jealous, plain and simple. Also a bitch. I’m sorry, it must be a horrible feeling to be treated that way 🙁

Post # 7
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Someone needs a filter! She may have not realized what she was saying was offensive. Orrr maybe she feel insecure herself. I would have said, “well, I’m happy with my body, so I’m not to concerned with what others think.”

Post # 8
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

@marhealy:  umm yeah no thats rude. Maybe she thought you wouldnt be AS offended as someone who was a little overweight? But either way, to any body type, that is offensive.


Post # 9
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Some people are just rude and have no social etiquette. Its hard for me to hold my tongue when someone is so outwardly rude. Did your FI hear the comments? Did he say anything?

Post # 10
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

That is awful!! And you are definitely not the first person I’ve heard that kind of story about. It’s like once you’re a bride, people feel it’s totally acceptable to comment on things they would never dream of bringing up otherwise. Everyone assumes that just because you’re getting married you automatically must be going on a diet. That someone would even assume it of someone petite like you shows how screwed up standards are about brides 🙁 and women in general of course!

Post # 11
22124 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

Bah, that wouldn’t be appropriate no matter what size you are! Totally sounds like she’s projecting her own insecurities though, which is still no good. 🙁

Post # 12
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

What a bitch! I would have replied “I know it takes a long time, I mean – how long have you been working out now?”

Post # 13
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

She sounds like a real winner.

I think that asking a bride if they’re going on a diet for the wedding is terrible no matter what size.  It’s even crazier to say to a small person, but rude no matter what.  She’s either insecure about her own body and throwing that to you, or she’s just a bitch.

Post # 15
917 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My first response was, “That bitch!” No matter what a girl’s ring looks like, I tell her how beautiful it is and definitely don’t bring mine into the equation unless she asks to see it. Second, who the HELL just starts in on diet and exercise?! Regardless of the other person’s size. Wow. Take a moment (and perhaps a stiff drink if that’s your thing) and just let her yuck flow away from you. Best of luck!

Post # 16
10902 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009


I continue to be amazed at the entirely inappropriate, insensitive, socially unacceptable things some people will say to others. If she says anything along the lines of this again, you might respond cheerfully, smiling,”Oh, no, and I have no intention of doing so. I am quite content with my current figure, and so is FI.” Then change the subject to another topic.

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