Post # 1
Hi! I am an expat living in Hong Kong. My FI and I are unsure when we are moving back to the US, but we know we won’t be back in time to actually go to a store there and create a registry. I can send all gifts to my mom’s house in the US and I don’t want the gifts to come to Hong Kong so that’s not a factor, but I am unsure of a couple of things:
1 – How can I create a registry without being in the US? Is it possible to simply create one online and choose from online pictures through a store? Are there any other options?
2 – There is a possibility that we won’t be back to the US permanently for a long time, in which case the gifts might sit at my mom’s house for a long time. Is this dangerous in terms of duplicates? Meaning, do we need to go through the gifts shortly after the wedding to ensure we can return any duplicate gifts?
any advice is much appreciated! thanks!
Post # 3
I’m an expat too, so I have this same issue. For most big registry stores, you can register online or send a friend or relative to the store to register for you. For places like Macy’s, Crate and Barrel, Bed, Bath & Beyond, etc., your registry can be maintained online and will show the number of items remaining. For example, if you register for ten soup spoons and three have already been purchased for you, a person visiting your registry will see that they can buy up to seven spoons for you; once all ten spoons have been bought, that section of the registry gets grayed out. It’s pretty neat and will cut down on your duplicates! That being said, maybe still go through your gifts – first of all so that you can write timely thank-you notes, and secondly, because grandparents, great-aunts and other folks might not be super tech-savvy and you may end up with duplicates anyway. Maybe as a wedding gift, your mom can go through the gifts and send you a list so you know what to thank people for! (Side note: in your thank you notes, don’t mention that the gifts are sitting in boxes thousands of miles away, haha.)
Post # 4
@megantobewed: Thanks so much for the helpful information! I think I’ll set up an online registry then. And I willl make sure not to tell everyone that I won’t use their gifts for ages!
Post # 5
I’m an expat in the US, but I was in Japan for most of the wedding planning. I am from New Zealand. We created our registry on amazon over skype. It was really easy and we are really happy with it. It saves ym kiwi and Japanese friends and family money, as they can easily ship direct to me.
Post # 6
Fellow expat here. I found Bed, Bath and Beyond to be the most friendly. You can register online and they let you return duplicates for cash, no hassel! I kept the registry kind of small since we didn’t want to store too much. Everyone understood and ended up giving us gift cards and checks so it wasn’t too important in the end.
Post # 7
@saphron234: I’m an expat in HK too! How long have you been here? How are you planning from all the way over here?! I totally tried, but got VERY frustrated because I have no idea when we will be moving home, either, and therefore don’t know how to set a date! Oh, I should mention that we are legally married and had an intimate ceremony followed by lunch, but are planning a wedding for whenever we get home.
Did you view venues before you moved over here? Are you going to fly back and forth to make final decisions? Sorry for all my questions, but I have been getting serious wedding fever and want to start planning!
Post # 8
I am an expat in Shanghai, we leave here in 2015 but will hopefully go somewhere else so we decided just to skip registering altogether. We figured it would be easiest for us and save our parents loads of space to not register majority of people bring cash then we can just spend it on whatever we need later when we get back to Canada or an awesome holiday sometime!