(Closed) Expect too much?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t expect him to discuss with me before making a decision, no. But I would expect a discussion to talk about the situation, even if it’s after he’s made a decision. For me, his choices are his to make. Yes, they may affect both of us, but I trust that he has taken both of us, both of his kids, his entire life into account before deciding one way or another. But that’s not to say that I won’t have questions about his reasons, and it’s not to say that I’ll be happy with his decision. But I do trust him to make a decision for good reasons, and I don’t need to discuss it with him first. If he ended up choosing something for the sake of making me happy, that’s not fair to him. (I know you said that you agree with his decision to turn the medication down, so I’m not saying that you’d have insisted until he gave in. I’m just talking about how I would feel about that type of situation.)

However, there are times that I’d expect a conversation before a decision is made. But those times aren’t about his health and are instead about some household stuff, or deciding to move us across the country. 

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