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My husband and I eloped last weekend! Yay!!
And now, the flack for our decision from various people! Yes, there have been some bummed out they weren’t able to share in our special day. (Most have been super supportive however). Of those who have expressed their dismay, the one that stands out to me, is, of course, my mother! She and I don’t have a close relationship. At. All. She is kind of a handful and I have to keep my distance from her for my own sanity. But today I received an email from her saying she made up some crap to my Aunt in regards to why we eloped. My mother is in her 70’s, so perhaps she doesn’t understand that now days, eloping is not the scarlet letter it used to be. In fact, it is becoming more and more common.
With that said, I just want to share with all those brides who eloped (or those to be), my response to her:
‘I think it is funny the expectations other people have of couples weddings/choices/etc. yet these people don’t consider that many couples these days struggle financially and can’t actually afford to make other people happy.’
I suffer from health problems and because of that our finances are tight. Its been this way for us as a couple for several years now. I think just about everyone we know, knows this about us. So from one broke, but happy bride to another…. OMFG! I have to laugh about it. I just have to!
Love to you all!
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@iloverocks: Congrats to you and kudos for not letting others bring you down. You guys did what was right for you and that is exactly what will keep your marriage strong over the years.
Post # 4
Congrats on getting married and choosing your happiness and finances over the desires of others!
Post # 6
@iloverocks: congrats!! We eloped too and it was exhsusting explaining why countlesssss times. But it was right for us!!
Post # 7
Good for you for sticking to your guns! I am still in shock how so many parents would rather see their kids getting into debt for a one-day event than being smart with their money!
Post # 8
@iloverocks: Good for you! You told it to her straight and you did not appologize.
Post # 9
@iloverocks: So jealous you eloped….sometimes I wish I did. haha. Were you able to emploly a photographer? I would love to see pictures! Congrats girl!
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CONGRATULATIONS! And I’m glad that you’re able to laugh about the stupid comments from your mom. Not worth your stress. You did what was right for you!
Post # 12
I am so glad i read this post- it has made me feel much more confidant about when I am in this situation in around 2 months time!!
I am not too worried about ym family, (our parents are coming with us anyway) but i have a particuarly friend whom i doubt will have anything nice to say about it and will likely have a bad attitude about our choices… so i was really dreading telling her! but thanks to this post i now think … WHATEVER! xx
Post # 13
@Kellyguk: Yay, elopers!!!