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I believe that a proposal requires getting down on one knee and saying a short speech about why they want to marry you or why they love you.
Just saying, "will you marry me?" just seems too easy!
For those of you who just got the question without a speech, I wonder if that is enough, because in the spur of the moment there is so much excitement, shock, etc.
What is your dream proposal?
My dream proposal would be something intimate and private with a sweet/ romantic little speech (nothing too long). Something that I would be happy to tell friends, family and one day our kids :)
my dream proposal would be a complete surprise. sometimes i envision coming home from work and opening the door to my man down on one knee, with candles and flowers around the apartment. he would tell me how much he loves me and that he cant live without me. haha that totally brought tears to my eyes! i'll give him credit he is great at surprises, and the man is VERY thoughtful. but honestly, whatever way he does it, will be the right way. i can just picture it though :) lol ::siiigh::
My dream proposal included NO speech, no getting down on one knee, definitely not a surprise, and not in public. I am a very low key person and I do not like surprises, so when my husband and I talked out our marriage plans together, it made me feel much more comfortable in the mutual decision. He didn't need to explain why he wanted to marry me, we already both knew.
I was actually talking to my SO about this the other day and I mentioned that I wanted him to make a little speech how much he loves me and why he wants to marry me.
He looked horrified and told me that he would already be freaking out about asking me and he doesn't think he'll be able to get the words out. I dismissed it and said it would be easy, so he asked to me to give him a demostration of what I should said.
So I pretended to be him, got down on one knee and made a speech. It was really HARD. I kept laughing and I couldn't get my words out.
I still want a little speech though but I guess as long as I hear the words "Will you marry me?" I'll be happy :)
Edit: I sound crazy but we just doing it for fun (I'm embarrassed)
The knee and ring aren't a requirement. But the words are. Words mean everything to me, especially when they're being backed by an action. There aren't many times people profess their love for people, so I'd rather not miss it. :)
My only requirements were 1. get down on one knee, 2. I wanted it to be simple and just the 2 of us and 3. NO sports arena proposals. He fufilled all 3 :-)
@mmmk: My FI proposed without a ring and there was no elaborate speech. He did, however, get down on 1 knee. Amazingly enough and to lucky for me, my dream proposal came true and I never even told my FI what it was.
Good luck to all the waiting bee and may your dream proposals come true!
When I got engaged, he was not on one knee, there was no ring, he did not say "will you marry me" and I did not say "yes"
But, we aren't any less of engaged because of it
My fiancé knew two things. One that if he did it in a public spectacle, I would say no. Two if he didn't get down on one knee I would say no. I feel silly saying that now, but it was important to me. I wanted it to be a private moment between us, and the knee is something I have dreamed about since I was little.
I told FI I wanted it to be just us, which it was. I was a little disappointed he didn't do down on one knee, and more so that he didn't say why he wanted to marry me (in fact, walking over to the spot where he proposed, he worried about what would happen to us and if we'd divorce because of X, Y, and Z! Definitely wished he didn't do that.) I didn't need the ring for the proposal but it was nice he did have it.
I don't really care if he gets down on one knee (though that would be so sweet...both knees do it too!), or if he has the ring on him at the time of proposal, or if we were just alone in the bedroom. However, I'd be very, very disappointed if he didn't say a few short words before asking "Will you marry me?" and I probably wouldn't really be able to hide my disappointment either. Even more so if he doesn't even ask "Will you marry me" or something similar, just says something offhand like "We're getting married, right?" Um, NO, I never said we were, you didn't even ask me if I would marry you! lol. I know a lot of Bees have simple but still sweet proposals, but my description of a really lame proposal doesn't even seem like something anyone could look back and laugh at.
Of course, it's all right if others mutually come to an agreement without any actual proposal, but I'd just like that extra little declaration, I guess. I don't know.
I was laying on the couch when my FI proposed but he did get down on his knee... he said words but for the life of me I couldn't remember what they were 2 minutes later I was just so happy and lost in sparkle land.
I didn't expect anything more than a kiss and a question though...
I dont know ladies...you expect a speech explaining why he wants to marry you? If it happens, it happens- but that this is how he "should" propose or for you to tell him how he should propose to you... This just seems bizarre to me. I guess every relationship is different.
I didn't get a speech, he didn't go down on one knee and it was only a partial surprise but I wouldn't change it for the world. He didn't even say "will you marry me?" until after we'd both calmed down and stopped crying. Honestly, put yourself in their shoes! It's a big ask to expect them to get everything perfect. Unless they're someone who speaks romantically a lot, that sort of speech might be mind-numbingly terrifying.
I have told my SO he will have to propose one one knee and 'do it properly with some thought' otherwise I will say no 
. Poor guy knows I am particular about many many things so I dont think it was a suprise to him. But from the sounds of other Bees proposals I think it will be magical and wonderful however it happens!
My only requirement was that we were alone when he did it- no one else watching, even secretly. I hate being in the spotlight, so he was very aware of that requirement, lol. I wouldn't have cared about any of the other stuff, he proposed with a fake/joke ring and I was thrilled. I honestly can't remember if he gave any kind of speech or said anything sweet and neither can he- he tells me how much he loves me and why all the time anyway.
The notion of dictating how your SO should propose is very strange to me. Shouldn't he or she know you well enough to plan it on their own?
I just want it to be:
1. somewhere beautiful, so not on our couch
2. Not directly dealing with food, as I have issues with food and I don't want to associate engagement/happiness with eating
3. I'd like to be dressed up a little so we can take pictures (not hiking or go karting, lol)
Everything else is up to him!
My DH did propose with a speech on one knee.
However! If he had just asked me at a restaurant or at home I would have been just as happy with that. Ring or no ring!
I don't remember what he said anyway! lol and (though he is) I'm not one for grand gestures.
I didn't want a public proposal yet when he proposed to me in the middle of a park with 200 people around us I wasn't bothered at all. I had no idea all of those people were there, I had tunnel vision. Helps that he didn't get down on one knee and draw attention to us!
I don't really get dictating the proposal other than saying that you are uncomfortable with a certain situation. I would have been happy if he asked me on the couch at home.
I want something private and he already knows this. I don't really care if he has a speech or not I already know how he feels about me. He just needs to ask me will you marry me and I'll be happy.
I always imagined that my dream proposal would be my FI getting down on one knee, giving me a big speech about how he loves me in the most romantic spot in the world, and I'd say yes calmly while smiling wildly and ending in a passionate kiss.
Can I say that my proposal was the furthest thing from that I can imagine and I've never been happier?! My FI proposed by sending me on a scavenger hunt and finding cards that proclaimed his love-- in our house! At 5 am no less! It was not exactly a beautiful sunrise or a goregous park haha. When I went back to him at the end, he saw me and got down on one knee and after a few words (which I don't remember) he asked me to marry him. I just nodded and we hugged and gave each other a quick kiss, then danced for a few minutes to the song he proposed with.
And you know what? I wouldn't and couldn't imagine anything more perfect. As soon as I saw him I started crying, so he cried *cough cough and would never admit that* through it all too. It was just so beautiful, my heart was bursting with happiness and I was so overjoyed!
Was it traditional? No. Over the top? No. Expected? Not at all. But was it perfect? Yes :)
I told my BF that I just wanted a story that I could tell people about how it happened. We tell eachother on a daily basis that we want to marry the other, and even go so far as to say "will you marry me" but we're not getting engaged until there's a ring and its been a year...
BF was joking with me the other day that maybe when he does it he'll kick down the door when I'm in the bathroom "doing my business" and propose then, or pretend to break into my apartment and scare the shit out of me... "that'll be a story" he says. Gee, thanks, not quite the story I was looking for...
You know what... I am really not fussed at all how he does it - just that he does it!
In an ideal world there will be romance and sweet words but then I also know we really aren't like that!
I have only told him that I do not wish to be wearing pyjamas and sitting on the couch!
My dream proposal would be something unexpected and romantic. Of course the down on one knee and a mini speech as to why he would want to marry me. Now onto reality.lol My SO is so far from being a romantic and opening up. So I'm pretty sure my dream proposal won't happen, but I'm to the point I don't care. I love him and want to start a new life with him. :)
I had no requirements. He did get down on one knee, he had the ring, but no speech. Honestly, once I saw him on one knee, I wouldn't have heard what came out of his mouth anyway, I was too busy trying to find my voice to say yes and making sure we didn't drop the ring off the cliff we were standing on.
I think he has to make an effort - he has to go down on one knee and say why he wants to marry me. My reasons are simple, my bf finds it hard to talk about feelings - the proposal might be my only chance to know why he decided to ask me to marry him and actually hear his honest, heart-felt feelings :-)
@lamourbleu: lol.. that would be a story to tell. hopefully it's a different kind of exciting story you can tell :)
I completely trust him that whatever he chooses will be perfect for our relationship. No parameters in my mind of what form that might take.
My fiance proposed my surprising me with an ad in the newspaper he works for. I was so caught off guard and in shock that I didn't even process what he was saying - he was telling me why he loved me and he can't wait to marry me but it happened like a blur. And I was actually sitting and he was standing when it happened! But I wouldn't have it any other way. It was perfect just the way it was! And it was silly like us. Although I did have him get down and put the ring on me a second time as a joke :)
My FI proposed to me on bended knee and infront of family, but I would have been just as happy if he had proposed to me sitting on the couch and just the two of us.
My DH started to propose in his seat then went "wait wait I need to do this right" and then got down on one knee and put the ring on my finger. I didn't really have a "dream proposal" in mind, I just wanted to be his wife.
My husband got down on one knee and just asked me to marry him. I didn't care that he didn't give me a speech, I already KNOW all the reasons he wanted to marry me because he would tell me all the time. He proposed on a beach called Lovers Beach in Cabo and there's the whole asking me to be his wife thing, so I figure that was romantic enough!
Ha! having those kinds of expectations can lead to disappointment so don't set yourselves up for that.
My proposal was me opening my front door, annoyed becuase I thought it was my dad, in sweats and a ponytail to a teary ex (I had left him a few weeks before and told him "no, this cow was done giving out the milk for free, that includes the pleasure of my company" when he had texted after the breakup asking for us to go out for dinner.
Anyway, I open the door looking like a mess (was cooking up a storm of freezer foods), dishtowel in hand to him shaking like a leaf, in tears, thrusting this wrapped box with a bow in my face and saying all shakily "I'd like to buy the cow".
So yeah...proposals come in all shapes and sorts, but the important thing was I knew he meant it and we have a funny (to us anyway!) story to tell that gets looks of horror from people lol!!
I guess my DH's proposal to me wouldn't have met your standards. He didn't give a speech, didn't get down on one knee b/c he was too nervous and just said, "will you marry me?" To me...it was my dream though :o)
All I cared about was that it was just the 2 of us when it happened. I didn't care about anything else.
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