Post # 1
Good friends who got engaged soon after we sent out save-the-date cards have just announced that their wedding will be five days after ours. It’s in another state and I was really hoping to take a week-long honeymoon to relax after all the hassle of our wedding. I’d regret not seeing them get married but I’m really stressed at the idea of having to travel to another state just four days after our wedding. My Fiance doesn’t seem to understand why I hate the idea of only three-days for our honeymoon followed by a big car trip and worrying organising hotels etc (which won’t be cheap) around their wedding. Is it unfair that I don’t want to go to their wedding, even though previously I would never have imagined missing it? Should I just suck it up and attend even though the thought of it exhausts me?
Post # 3
Why not take a honeymoon a few months after the wedding?
Post # 4
I would probably go, but that’s just me. I agree with PP about maybe delaying your honeymoon. The planning (in terms of hotels) will be done ahead of time so it won’t be that exhausting!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If you haven’t already made your honeymoon plans and these are good friend then I would postpone the honeymoon and go to their wedding.
Post # 7
We wouldn’t go but that’s just us.
Post # 8
Thanks guys, it’s great to hear from people who aren’t so wrapped up in it that they can’t think straight (i.e. me)!
Part of the trickiness in delaying our honeymoon is around FI’s job, he’s got a grad position that means it’s going to be really difficult to get time off if it’s not around Easter, which is when both weddings are. We’d probably have to wait until Christmas to go away, which I don’t think would feel very honeymoon-ey.
Post # 9
@miharu: Unless they were REALLY GOOD friends, we wouldnt go. We would do the honeymoon. But we also have very little time for vacations so it would more of a “have to do it now or next year” type thing
Post # 10
Nope, I wouldn’t go. Go enjoy your honeymoon.
Post # 11
Unless they were my best friends, I would just go on my honeymoon. Personally, I hate the idea of a taking honeymoon a few months later, thats just a vacation.
Post # 13
The honeymoon is a really important aspect to me. Unless they were very close friends, I’d probably skip it.
Post # 14
how good a friend is she?
can you go on your honeymoon the week after instead?
Post # 15
I’d go on my honeymoon unless it was a very close friend, i.e., they were actually part of our bridal party.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t go. I have always planned on going on the honeymoon right after the wedding.