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So I found out one of my BM's pregnant. I don't know if I should be freaking out or not. I haven't had the chance to talk to my friend yet. I found out she's pregnant through a good friend who talks to her a lot more than I get to. I'm just bracing myself for the conversation we will have. Even though I'm so happy for her I'm a little disapointed that I probably won't get to have her in my wedding. None of the BMs have ordered thier dresses yet. I do remember my bridal boutique saying that some BM dresses can be ordered in maternity sizes. Has anyone gone through this before and what did you do? I'm guessing she'll be 7mths a long when my wedding comes around.

one of BMs will have a 2 month old baby at the time of the wedding (so she is - very - pregnant now).  When I found out, I just decided to scrap the whole matchy -matchy thing and focus on what was most important.  I really wanted this person to stand up for me!  So I decided that all the (4) BMs would choose their own black dress.  Everyone, inlcuding the pregrant one, is thrilled.  It would have been really tough to "guess" her size, because this is her third kid, and she has had very different experiences losing the weight with each one.  Good luck to you!

From what I understand, the idea of excluding very pregnant women from the bridal party stems from the victorian era when pregnant women were hidden from society in general. Being visably pregnant announced to the world that you had been engaging in (GASP!!!) sex.

Other than discomfort the mother-to-be may have standing for a long ceremony, I don't see any reason why a pregnant woman shouldn't be in the bridal party, especially if it's not within three to four weeks of her due date.

I researched maternity dresses for a friend of mine a few months ago and was horrified at the lack of nice ones. What I might suggest if you can swing it is offering for you maids to buy their own black dress within certain perameters. That way she could find a nice black maternity dress with out having to deal with the bridesmaid dress crap. Or... you can talk to a seamstress about altering the dress the other bridesmaids are wearing to fit your pregnant maid. And there are a few nice maternity dresses. You just might have to do more research than you were expecting. Good luck and don't let this deprive you of having an important person in your bridal party!

Thanks guys! Pregnant or not I would love to still have her in our wedding. I'm just worried about her comfort level of showing while walking down the aisle. But then again she's the type that loves attention. Ha!
If she chooses to back out that's totally fine with me. I won't be looking for a replacement though. I'm fine with the bridal party being uneven so that's not a problem. She does live out of state and I personally don't want her flying driving or whatever in the state she's in just to be in the wedding. I want her to be comfortable and do what she feels is best for her and the baby. I was thinking about getting her a BM gift still even if she backs out. I want to honor her as a good friend. She's also part of the reason FI and I got together.